I did two loads of dishes. Drove to an auto dealer an hour away to purchase our daughter's new wheels. When to the grocery store, pet store, hardware store, and auto supply store. Did an oil change on my daughter's car since there's no documentation for the last change. Did an oil change on my car since it was pretty overdue. Spread out some gravel in a low part of the driveway so my daughter doesn't have to step into a puddle when she gets out of her car. Took out garbage and recyclables. Made dinner and did some very incomplete cleaning in the kitchen. Also I ordered the equipment I need to install my daughter's old stereo into her new car. Also went through the mail backlog to process anything important. The NRA is trying to get me to join, but they still are only offering a free knife instead of a free gun. If I wanted a free knife I'd join the NBA. That's the National Blade Association, not the National Basketball Association which isn't the same thing.

Meanwhile, my wife has decided she will no longer be part of the family and stayed at her office all day. I made a dinner I know she likes, hoping maybe she'd have dinner with my daughter and I and maybe feel more like she's a part of things, but that didn't work very well. She's isolated herself in our room and took her dinner there. I want to do something to make her feel better, but I'm not sure what. Most things seem to result in hostility or being dismissed.

Also, I've been nonstop busy all day and I really just want to relax for a bit, which probably makes me as selfish as she says I am.

Gud, if your wife has decided she's not part of the family, then I don't see why you have to do shit for her. No cooking, no working on her website, no laundry, nothing on her car.

I'm not feeling any sympathy for the wife here. Sorry, it seems a benefit to all if she stays away for a while. I certainly wouldn't cater to her sulking either. I work hard, but I know each and every day how much my efforts are appreciated. No way I would cater to someone who wasn't grateful, or worse, who was critical.

Just stating facts.

I wish I could kill myself and stop all the stress

Would you please, PLEASE see a therapist? If you are at the point of wishing you could end your life, you need professional help very, VERY badly.

And frankly, if she's not contributing to the family, I don't see why she gets any part of your salary either.

Thank you all for your kind words.

Gud, my heart goes out to you. At this point I am not at all sure how to convey support and love to you in a way that would be most meaningful to you. I wish I did, because you deserve to be lifted up by people who care about you. You deserve kindness. It is not selfish to want to relax after a busy day like you have had. You deserve rest and relaxation too.

Congrats, Scrappy!

I'm so sorry, WindSparrow. He was incredibly loved.

Gud, my heart goes out to you. At this point I am not at all sure how to convey support and love to you in a way that would be most meaningful to you. I wish I did, because you deserve to be lifted up by people who care about you. You deserve kindness. It is not selfish to want to relax after a busy day like you have had. You deserve rest and relaxation too.

Exactly what WindSparrow said. Exactly. Sending you love, and if it would help, sending your wife love, too, in the hope that she can find help for herself.

Also, I've been nonstop busy all day and I really just want to relax for a bit, which probably makes me as selfish as she says I am.

It absolutely positively does not.