He was bitching that I didn't keep the dishes up when they were here, which made them uncomfortable!
I have so many retorts rolling around in my head I can't put one together.
Book: I am a Shepherd. Folks like a man of God. Mal: No, they don't. Men of God make everyone feel guilty and judged.
'Safe'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Dana - Oct 26, 2020 11:14:42 am PDT #28130 of 30019
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Laura - Oct 26, 2020 11:17:13 am PDT #28131 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
There was a lot more, but I ended up telling him I didn't deserve it, and left. DH stayed and talked to him being peacemaker and such, but I have nothing to say to him at this point. I wrote him an email this morning, copying his wife, and we will see if he responds with an adequate apology. If not, it is his loss.
JenP - Oct 26, 2020 11:20:33 am PDT #28132 of 30019
Man, Laura, I am so sorry you have to deal with that.
NoiseDesign - Oct 26, 2020 11:24:24 am PDT #28133 of 30019
Our wings are not tired
Family is hard. Sorry your son is being an entitled ass Laura.
lisah - Oct 26, 2020 11:56:19 am PDT #28134 of 30019
Punishingly Intricate
Ugh, Laura, I'm sorry.
Jesse - Oct 26, 2020 12:10:33 pm PDT #28135 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Oof, I'm so sorry, Laura.
Just one example, I haven't yet 'baby-proofed' my house.
That is so ridiculous!!OMG.
Sheryl - Oct 26, 2020 12:23:45 pm PDT #28136 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Sorry your younger son is being a butt, Laura.
Laura - Oct 26, 2020 12:25:48 pm PDT #28137 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
Thank you, all. I just have been seething all day.
eta: Part of what annoys is that he is like me in that he has this ridiculous list of things that have pissed him off over some crazy number of years and was spitting them all out. I used to do that with DH#1. He told me that if I just told him daily when he did something that annoyed me it would be more effective than saving it up for once every five years. He was right and I corrected my behavior. I am not where I am discussing anything with son though. His grievances are absurd and as the parent here I have no need or desire to justify anything I have done.
Topic!Cindy - Oct 26, 2020 12:42:07 pm PDT #28138 of 30019
What is even happening?
Laura, I'm sorry. You do not deserve that, and I'm glad you're looking out for yourself. It's also really unhealthy to litigate past grievances. Good for you for not buying into it.
He was bitching that I didn't keep the dishes up when they were here, which made them uncomfortable!
After my brother-in-law and sister-in-law split, my nephew, who was an adult (and graduate of a college for which his parents had paid) moved his adult GF into his father's house. They both lived there rent-free.
GF wasn't working. The guys were. She'd only do her dishes and my nephew's, not my b-i-l's dishes. She'd cook dinner for herself and my nephew (with the food my b-i-l bought, in his kitchen, with his pots and pans, and eat off his plates), but not for my b-i-l. They moved out when they got married and were angry that my b-i-l wouldn't pay off the GF/wife's student loans.
Toddson - Oct 26, 2020 12:53:20 pm PDT #28139 of 30019
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Laura, I'm tempted to say something about having a big baby living with you ... but it's hard to find the words.