Laura, I'm sorry. You do not deserve that, and I'm glad you're looking out for yourself. It's also really unhealthy to litigate past grievances. Good for you for not buying into it.
He was bitching that I didn't keep the dishes up when they were here, which made them uncomfortable!
After my brother-in-law and sister-in-law split, my nephew, who was an adult (and graduate of a college for which his parents had paid) moved his adult GF into his father's house. They both lived there rent-free.
GF wasn't working. The guys were. She'd only do her dishes and my nephew's, not my b-i-l's dishes. She'd cook dinner for herself and my nephew (with the food my b-i-l bought, in his kitchen, with his pots and pans, and eat off his plates), but not for my b-i-l. They moved out when they got married and were angry that my b-i-l wouldn't pay off the GF/wife's student loans.
Laura, I'm tempted to say something about having a big baby living with you ... but it's hard to find the words.
Pretty much the same kind of thing, Cindy. Also, we generally ate earlier than the kids so our dishes may have been there when he went to cook. I have a dishwasher. He could have rinsed them and put them in there. I have no guilt over not immediately washing my dishes after I ate so that my son living rent free with his wife didn't have to feel uncomfortable. Ungrateful ass.
Yikes, Laura, that's some poor decision-making on his part! I'm sorry. Hope he comes around and manages a decent apology.
Laura, I'm sorry you're dealing with that. From where I'm sitting it sounds like he needs to learn to deal with his stresses without taking them out on the people around him, especially before he has to start parenting.
His grievances are absurd and as the parent here I have no need or desire to justify anything I have done.
I am glad you have the right attitude here!
Pretty much the same kind of thing, Cindy. Also, we generally ate earlier than the kids so our dishes may have been there when he went to cook. I have a dishwasher. He could have rinsed them and put them in there. I have no guilt over not immediately washing my dishes after I ate so that my son living rent free with his wife didn't have to feel uncomfortable. Ungrateful ass.
Nor should you have any guilt. You and your husband weren't their kidnappers. You were their benefactors.
The uncomfortable makes me chuckle at him (not in a mean way; my husband and I are still sponsoring two young adults ourselves). It says a lot about his life has been, that your speed at getting the dishes done even rates among your parental sins.
I did not have perfect parents. I have not been a perfect parent. And SPOILERS: *
I did not produce perfect children.
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Dear Laura's Impending Grandchild:
Please be healthy and strong, but maybe get your days and nights mixed up for a little while. Do it for your grandmother, who is itching to spoil you rotten. Also, when you're older, please sigh loudly, and "forget" a lot, when your parents ask you to do a small household chore.
Love,
Your Buffista Fairy Godparents
What Cindy said. Also, maybe pee on them a few times, Impending Grandchild.
I realized next week I have the day off after the election. I am getting my haircut next Wed.
This is better than 4 years ago when I had to go to work and here people cheer and be excited about the outcome.
If we have 4 more years of the same there will be people at the store who will cheer and be happy. Luckily I don't have to interact with many of them
