Ugh, Laura, I'm sorry.

Oof, I'm so sorry, Laura.

Just one example, I haven't yet 'baby-proofed' my house.

That is so ridiculous!!OMG.

Timelies all!

Sorry your younger son is being a butt, Laura.

Thank you, all. I just have been seething all day.

eta: Part of what annoys is that he is like me in that he has this ridiculous list of things that have pissed him off over some crazy number of years and was spitting them all out. I used to do that with DH#1. He told me that if I just told him daily when he did something that annoyed me it would be more effective than saving it up for once every five years. He was right and I corrected my behavior. I am not where I am discussing anything with son though. His grievances are absurd and as the parent here I have no need or desire to justify anything I have done.

Laura, I'm sorry. You do not deserve that, and I'm glad you're looking out for yourself. It's also really unhealthy to litigate past grievances. Good for you for not buying into it.

He was bitching that I didn't keep the dishes up when they were here, which made them uncomfortable!

After my brother-in-law and sister-in-law split, my nephew, who was an adult (and graduate of a college for which his parents had paid) moved his adult GF into his father's house. They both lived there rent-free.

GF wasn't working. The guys were. She'd only do her dishes and my nephew's, not my b-i-l's dishes. She'd cook dinner for herself and my nephew (with the food my b-i-l bought, in his kitchen, with his pots and pans, and eat off his plates), but not for my b-i-l. They moved out when they got married and were angry that my b-i-l wouldn't pay off the GF/wife's student loans.

Laura, I'm tempted to say something about having a big baby living with you ... but it's hard to find the words.

Pretty much the same kind of thing, Cindy. Also, we generally ate earlier than the kids so our dishes may have been there when he went to cook. I have a dishwasher. He could have rinsed them and put them in there. I have no guilt over not immediately washing my dishes after I ate so that my son living rent free with his wife didn't have to feel uncomfortable. Ungrateful ass.

Yikes, Laura, that's some poor decision-making on his part! I'm sorry. Hope he comes around and manages a decent apology.

Laura, I'm sorry you're dealing with that. From where I'm sitting it sounds like he needs to learn to deal with his stresses without taking them out on the people around him, especially before he has to start parenting.

His grievances are absurd and as the parent here I have no need or desire to justify anything I have done.

I am glad you have the right attitude here!