I like the cut of your therapist's jib, Sophia. Can you approach someone at work (HR or whoever) and discuss taking some more time off? Like you could use some more time to get things settled but you can come back if they really need you, let them decide if it's ok or not

I am also inspired by you, by the way. It will not surprise you to learn, I suspect, that I have gotten myself into a similar situation although without the pressures of landlords or inspections to get me off my tail and actually taking care of what I very well know needs to get done. November I'm getting to work on getting on top of it!

It amazes me how therapy is sometimes just my therapist reminding me something obvious that I genuinely hadn't considered as a thing I could do.

That is why I want to stay with her for the five visits, even though she thinks I am pretty healthy and just got in over my head, rather than being pathological. I am a terrible liar so I am avoiding my mothers calls and I will probably tell her after I have the certificate of occupancy because I get weirdly guilty.

I am also experiencing guilt because after all this, I may still want to move to a studio apartment, which seems more reasonable for me to keep up than a one bedroom with a bonus room, a sun porch and an attic, I just want nothing but me, my cat, five outfits for work, and ability to eat dinner.

Of course in the lying part, I realized I have this whole attic, so if anyone questions me about the dumpster and the people tomorrow,I can say they are cleaning out my attic, which is embarrassing, but not as enbarrassing as cleaning out my living room. I am a terrible person.

No, you're not. People aren't entitled to know everything that's going on with you.

Just tell them you're going hardcore Marie Kondo?

So I went and got a contact lens prescription, and I asked about getting colored contacts. They gave me a pair to try, and a prescription for them (plus a prescription for regular ones), but I don't like the colors the brand has (they're just...not much change, which seems pointless). Should I call them and ask if I can try the other brand? I feel silly, but also like when I had bad vision before surgery I could never wear color contacts, so I want to now that my eyes are better! (I'm not sure if that would then count as needing another eye exam!)

Timelies all!

I replaced the power cord for my printer, but it won't go on. I don't know if any printer repair places could fix it, and my computer is quite old, so I can't find a printer that will work with my OS. Sigh...

No, you're not. People aren't entitled to know everything that's going on with you.

That. Also, I say it's okay to tell a lie to people who ask nosy questions. They don't have a right to an answer. I mean, some people are genuinely concerned but most people are just curious, and you don't owe the story of your life to someone's idle curiosity.

That is why I want to stay with her for the five visits, even though she thinks I am pretty healthy and just got in over my head, rather than being pathological.

I feel like people should have therapy if they want it (and can afford it and everything else), not just if they are pathological! For the record. As a person who has meant to find a therapist for literally years.

So yeah, if your mother isn't involved, there's not really a need for her to know. Better all around.

I think this is true. I already death spiral into disastrous anxiety. I do not need a 78 year old person also death spiraling. I will probably tell her once it is done, because I am a terrible liar v

Just tell them you're going hardcore Marie Kondo?

Yup. It's pretty much true!