Just tell them you're going hardcore Marie Kondo?
So I went and got a contact lens prescription, and I asked about getting colored contacts. They gave me a pair to try, and a prescription for them (plus a prescription for regular ones), but I don't like the colors the brand has (they're just...not much change, which seems pointless). Should I call them and ask if I can try the other brand? I feel silly, but also like when I had bad vision before surgery I could never wear color contacts, so I want to now that my eyes are better! (I'm not sure if that would then count as needing another eye exam!)
Timelies all!
I replaced the power cord for my printer, but it won't go on. I don't know if any printer repair places could fix it, and my computer is quite old, so I can't find a printer that will work with my OS. Sigh...
No, you're not. People aren't entitled to know everything that's going on with you.
That. Also, I say it's okay to tell a lie to people who ask nosy questions. They don't have a right to an answer. I mean, some people are genuinely concerned but most people are just curious, and you don't owe the story of your life to someone's idle curiosity.
That is why I want to stay with her for the five visits, even though she thinks I am pretty healthy and just got in over my head, rather than being pathological.
I feel like people should have therapy if they want it (and can afford it and everything else), not just if they are pathological! For the record. As a person who has meant to find a therapist for literally years.
So yeah, if your mother isn't involved, there's not really a need for her to know. Better all around.
I think this is true. I already death spiral into disastrous anxiety. I do not need a 78 year old person also death spiraling. I will probably tell her once it is done, because I am a terrible liar v
Just tell them you're going hardcore Marie Kondo?
Yup. It's pretty much true!
Sophia - not telling her is not lying. She asks you what you've been doing - tell her deep cleaning your apartment. If you still think you want to move to a studio and she asks why, tell her that maintaining a place with 4 spaces/rooms where "stuff" can accumulate is too much for you.
Thanks all. I have a hard time obfuscating, which is weird, because I didn't randomly walk up to people and tell them my home is a disaster!
My therapist actually thanked me for being so forthcoming/honest because it made her job easier. I was like, I already let these Serve Pro people see it, what have I got to lose now as I have already given up all pretense to dignity after I told my boss and Maria and you guys!
One other reason I liked the therapist is that I told her I was afraid I was boring for her because I thought about things outside of therapy and she wouldn't have to dig too deep, because I was pretty forthcoming and she said that it might be true for long term therapy, but I was not boring her short term and we just need to do short term right now. This therapist is so much better than the one I had a bad experience with.
lying is really easy for me and I can do it well, so my therapist is really amazed that 1) I am truthful about the ugly stuff and 2) my friends online are not "just put your best self online" people, but a good community for showing underbellies.
Sophia, I completely agree that you don't have to tell anyone anything, but if you're at all like me and have trouble keeping anything from your mother, a half truth works too. Things got a little messy at home so I buckled down and took care of it, kind of thing. And I would have been so screwed if my landlords did regular inspections back in the day when I was living alone.
