Of course in the lying part, I realized I have this whole attic, so if anyone questions me about the dumpster and the people tomorrow,I can say they are cleaning out my attic, which is embarrassing, but not as enbarrassing as cleaning out my living room. I am a terrible person.

No, you're not. People aren't entitled to know everything that's going on with you.

Just tell them you're going hardcore Marie Kondo?

So I went and got a contact lens prescription, and I asked about getting colored contacts. They gave me a pair to try, and a prescription for them (plus a prescription for regular ones), but I don't like the colors the brand has (they're just...not much change, which seems pointless). Should I call them and ask if I can try the other brand? I feel silly, but also like when I had bad vision before surgery I could never wear color contacts, so I want to now that my eyes are better! (I'm not sure if that would then count as needing another eye exam!)

Timelies all!

I replaced the power cord for my printer, but it won't go on. I don't know if any printer repair places could fix it, and my computer is quite old, so I can't find a printer that will work with my OS. Sigh...

No, you're not. People aren't entitled to know everything that's going on with you.

That. Also, I say it's okay to tell a lie to people who ask nosy questions. They don't have a right to an answer. I mean, some people are genuinely concerned but most people are just curious, and you don't owe the story of your life to someone's idle curiosity.

That is why I want to stay with her for the five visits, even though she thinks I am pretty healthy and just got in over my head, rather than being pathological.

I feel like people should have therapy if they want it (and can afford it and everything else), not just if they are pathological! For the record. As a person who has meant to find a therapist for literally years.

So yeah, if your mother isn't involved, there's not really a need for her to know. Better all around.

I think this is true. I already death spiral into disastrous anxiety. I do not need a 78 year old person also death spiraling. I will probably tell her once it is done, because I am a terrible liar v

Just tell them you're going hardcore Marie Kondo?

Yup. It's pretty much true!

Sophia - not telling her is not lying. She asks you what you've been doing - tell her deep cleaning your apartment. If you still think you want to move to a studio and she asks why, tell her that maintaining a place with 4 spaces/rooms where "stuff" can accumulate is too much for you.

Thanks all. I have a hard time obfuscating, which is weird, because I didn't randomly walk up to people and tell them my home is a disaster!

My therapist actually thanked me for being so forthcoming/honest because it made her job easier. I was like, I already let these Serve Pro people see it, what have I got to lose now as I have already given up all pretense to dignity after I told my boss and Maria and you guys!

One other reason I liked the therapist is that I told her I was afraid I was boring for her because I thought about things outside of therapy and she wouldn't have to dig too deep, because I was pretty forthcoming and she said that it might be true for long term therapy, but I was not boring her short term and we just need to do short term right now. This therapist is so much better than the one I had a bad experience with.