You know, I just... I woke up, and I looked in the mirror, and I thought, hey, what's with all the sin? I need to change. I'm... I'm dirty. I'm, I'm bad with the... sex and the envy and that, that loud music us kids listen to nowadays.

Buffy ,'Lessons'


Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?

Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


erikaj - Nov 15, 2025 10:26:00 am PST #8264 of 8275
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

Alice Wong died. You might have seen her on that show with W. Kamau Bell a few years ago. Not exactly like losing a friend, but we talked on socials a few times.I enjoyed her and took some inspiration from what she accomplished, even though I don't feel like I am in a place to be a Crip Elder Stateswoman in any way. (She was more conscious of living on borrowed time than I, aside from the fact that nobody in Gen X really thought we'd be our age--add in disability, though, and we've all seen a few fragile threads get snapped by now.) Unlike me, though, she had confidence in the disability community and its wisdom. I can't always relate, but that is something to aspire to. [link]


Karl - Nov 15, 2025 11:56:56 am PST #8265 of 8275
I adore all you motherfuckers so much -- PMM.

Damn. Alice was something of a local hero here. I never met her, but my friend-and-former-colleague Liz used to write (and talk) about her a lot.

Thanks for letting us know, Erika.


erikaj - Nov 15, 2025 12:33:41 pm PST #8266 of 8275
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

Yeah, what remains of Disability Twitter(spread across wherever) is kind of torn up today.


askye - Nov 15, 2025 3:32:26 pm PST #8267 of 8275
Thrive to spite them

I'm really sorry Erika


askye - Nov 15, 2025 3:35:04 pm PST #8268 of 8275
Thrive to spite them

So I haven't gotten another period after the one hat messed up my almost a year without.

I noticed changes in my cycle when I was around 40. I'm 52 now. So 12 years of changes and I hope I really am done .


erikaj - Nov 15, 2025 3:52:43 pm PST #8269 of 8275
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

It's sad, but she'll never have a case review ever again. That's not all bad.(That's how hard the system makes this, that part of me thinks about the lucky part.)ETA: She would probably never see it that way; I'm amazed by her ability to still feel like something came next, despite all the struggling. Hard to believe I'm old enough to be a mentor--I can't do it, but in theory. Still sort of think my period might come back, but it walloped me last time, so, no hurry.


erikaj - Nov 17, 2025 2:55:30 pm PST #8270 of 8275
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

cereal: having trouble with the concept of "disabled ancestor"(Are we all supposed to be related and nobody told me?!(Considers relations with extended family and most disabled people I know for longer than, like, a panel.) (Oz voice Actually, that might explain a lot.(/Oz)


Trudy Booth - Nov 17, 2025 3:27:37 pm PST #8271 of 8275
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Maybe you sire each other like vampires.

(Activist-wise)


erikaj - Nov 17, 2025 4:04:53 pm PST #8272 of 8275
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

yeah, maybe.


Pix - Nov 18, 2025 1:06:56 pm PST #8273 of 8275
The status is NOT quo.

So sorry, erika.