I've had people call me "Toddy" (shudder). We have a woman in my office who had the habit of giving people nicknames, mostly with little relation to their actual names, and insisted on using those rather than their actual names. Or even a nickname based on their actual name. She liked to warble out, at full volume, her nickname for anyone ... I suspect that at least one person left because they hated that nickname so much.

I've had people call me "Toddy" (shudder).

I think "Toddy" is cute, but more because I associate it with Robert Preston's character in Victor/Victoria than because I think it suits you!

And I've never allowed anyone to call me "Mellie" even though that's one of Melanie's nicknames in Gone With the Wind.

And of course, if looks could kill, I'd have a couple of dead coworkers who thought it would be funny to jokingly call me "Melania".

People have tried to call me Sally. This has not ended well for them.

I think "hey, do you mind not calling me that? I don't really care for it" would be better than a deflection that might be understood at playing along with the joke.

I said "am not a lady" and I think that took care of it.

Sorry for having a little freak-out there.

Unfortunately, there are any number of people who think it's cute, or amusing, or just OK for them to rename people regardless of what the person thinks, as in the woman in my office.

Sorry for having a little freak-out there.

It wasn't a freak-out, you were talking to people you knew would listen. It sounds like the direct approach worked.

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Unfortunately, there are any number of people who think it's cute, or amusing, or just OK for them to rename people regardless of what the person thinks, as in the woman in my office.

As a serial nick-namer, allow me to say Not OK, Nicknamers Who Don't Take Other People's Preferences Into Account!

I think "Toddy" is cute, but more because I associate it with Robert Preston's character in Victor/Victoria than because I think it suits you!

"There's nothing worse than an old queen with a head cold."

I may use that line myself fairly often, but it is definitely not *our* Toddson.

This may sound like a weird question(especially not close to father's day) but grown daughters, what do you you do with your dads? as you know, my dad and I put the strange in estrangement...just want a sense of what's...normal?expected? Especially since people hear that we have a troubled relationship and think he's extra horrible cause I'm disabled and, he, like doesn't wrap me in bubble wrap, or some shit. Which wouldn't be what I really want but in some ways would beat, you know, "as close to nothing as propriety permits" like I've got now. do you still look to him for advice? Share a hobby?ETA: I had a stepfather, and he used to, you know, give me resume advice and check my computer for updates, but him having a nervous breakdown than pissing off...kind of makes that weirder than I thought at the time.