I think "Toddy" is cute, but more because I associate it with Robert Preston's character in Victor/Victoria than because I think it suits you!

"There's nothing worse than an old queen with a head cold."

I may use that line myself fairly often, but it is definitely not *our* Toddson.

This may sound like a weird question(especially not close to father's day) but grown daughters, what do you you do with your dads? as you know, my dad and I put the strange in estrangement...just want a sense of what's...normal?expected? Especially since people hear that we have a troubled relationship and think he's extra horrible cause I'm disabled and, he, like doesn't wrap me in bubble wrap, or some shit. Which wouldn't be what I really want but in some ways would beat, you know, "as close to nothing as propriety permits" like I've got now. do you still look to him for advice? Share a hobby?ETA: I had a stepfather, and he used to, you know, give me resume advice and check my computer for updates, but him having a nervous breakdown than pissing off...kind of makes that weirder than I thought at the time.

My dad is super republican. He's also very old and frail. And his hobbies are stamp collecting and baseball. We don't have much to talk about. Mostly the weather, my travels, occasionally news items that aren't going to make us fight....we aren't close. But we never were growing up, either. So...yeah.

My dad and I have dinner together once a month. It took a great deal of hinting to make it happen (he's in my part of town once a month for a meeting, so we'd have, like birthday dinners when he was here anyway. It took a solid year or two of me going, "we COULD do this on months that don't have a special occasion..." to make it become a regular thing). I don't call on him for regular advice, but I'll occasionally call for house stuff. But, I have to commend him, he made a conscious effort to stay in our lives when he left my mom, and tries to still be present. It helps that we're very similar politically, and we're both voracious readers, so we do have things to talk about. But, as my step-sister lives on the other end of the state, and my brother and step-brothers are...men, I think I'm probably the one he's closest to.

Thanks...appreciate reading all the different perspectives...clearly there's a real range.

My dad is a functional alcoholic. Mostly we hang out. We chat, and watch baseball or football.

Dad's mostly deaf, so I only talk to him when I'm visiting my parents, which I don't do as much as I used to because my brother's moved back home. That said, I know Dad lurks on Facebook, so my main interactions now are flipping him shit there and seeing if he says something.

(I'm close to my dad. We just don't talk a lot. I once told him that, for his birthday, I was going to give him the gift of not calling him.)

My dad didn't understand how to communicate with children, but after I was about 25 we could chat at length about anything. Alas, he died when I was 30, but the time spent together as adults was cool.

I am so different from my dad in many ways. Dad is conservative, he isn't demonstrative about his emotions really well. When we were younger he would do things with my brother or things with my brother and me but not relaly with me alone.

I feel like we are close in some ways. We can't talk about politics or social issues or religion and we don't really hang out and do things. Well we've gone to football games and go fishing but mostly we talk about sports and cooking and occasionally books and stuff like that.

Back when the original Queer Eye was on there was an episode with a dad and daughters and they looked so comfortable with each other, I remember feeling a little jealous.

But we can sort of talk about some things and I know he's there for me and supports him and he has been able to tell me that in various ways

My dad was great (as you all know). We would run errands together on a Saturday, or just grab breakfast. We could talk about most things. He would tease me for my liberalism. We didnt really do anything in particular together.