So, I realized after I sorted everyone into exchange groups that I don't have your emails to send your card lists. DOH. If you signed up for the card exchange, ping me at msgullo@gmail.com and I will send your card lists.

So, I realized after I sorted everyone into exchange groups that I don't have your emails to send your card lists. DOH. If you signed up for the card exchange, ping me at msgullo@gmail.com and I will send your card lists.

Kat I assume if I got an email about the card exchange I'm good?

Today was a big ball of stress at my already stressful job. this morning they brought a bunch of people into a conference room and told them their last day of work would be Jan 11. there was a lot of crying and most of the people took the rest of the day off. It was aweful. I couldn't really stop working to ask what was going on, I had to sit at my desk working watching it happen in front of me.

Now I'm really worried about how secure my job is. There was no detectable reason why these people were let go. there were managers and good workers, so it's put us all on tinder hooks. If I were young enough to feel I could always get another job it would be better. But, I turn 64 this month. I'm nobody's ideal hire.

Oh, quester. How unpleasant in the moment and worrisome for the future! I'm sorry.

Aw geez, quester, no wonder you're stressed! That sounds like a truly terrible way to handle that.

Aw geez, quester, no wonder you're stressed! That sounds like a truly terrible way to handle that.

It's the way they handle everything! They are a hot mess of a company, and we are being sucked into thier vortex. It makes me wonder how they are a successful world wide company. Unless they are just good liars.

Help! I need a barometer. Is "have a conversation without getting angry with me" an unreasonable demand? Is there a better way of phrasing it that doesn't sound so much like tone-policing? I just want to be able to like, solve problems without everything turning into an argument but also wondering if I'm the asshole.

Laga, that's a tricky one. Because people are going to feel what they're going to feel (like, no matter what you say, they might get angry). Although I need to emphasize that *how* someone expresses their feelings can be a problem. Except yeah, saying "Don't express your anger" sort of seems like tone-policing. Ugh, it's complicated.

I guess maybe approach it from the POV that includes both of you? Something like, "I'd like to have a conversation where both of us feel like our points are being heard." Would that work?

thank you yes that is very helpful! I think I tend to approach people problems the same way I approach thing problems and that can leave people feeling like I see them as things.