Oh, quester. How unpleasant in the moment and worrisome for the future! I'm sorry.
Up until the punching, it was a real nice party.
Kaylee ,'Shindig'
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-t - Dec 03, 2019 4:41:12 pm PST #6724 of 8211
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
EpicTangent - Dec 04, 2019 8:39:06 am PST #6725 of 8211
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Aw geez, quester, no wonder you're stressed! That sounds like a truly terrible way to handle that.
quester - Dec 04, 2019 2:55:06 pm PST #6726 of 8211
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
Aw geez, quester, no wonder you're stressed! That sounds like a truly terrible way to handle that.
It's the way they handle everything! They are a hot mess of a company, and we are being sucked into thier vortex. It makes me wonder how they are a successful world wide company. Unless they are just good liars.
Laga - Dec 06, 2019 5:21:37 am PST #6727 of 8211
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Help! I need a barometer. Is "have a conversation without getting angry with me" an unreasonable demand? Is there a better way of phrasing it that doesn't sound so much like tone-policing? I just want to be able to like, solve problems without everything turning into an argument but also wondering if I'm the asshole.
Steph L. - Dec 06, 2019 5:56:43 am PST #6728 of 8211
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Laga, that's a tricky one. Because people are going to feel what they're going to feel (like, no matter what you say, they might get angry). Although I need to emphasize that *how* someone expresses their feelings can be a problem. Except yeah, saying "Don't express your anger" sort of seems like tone-policing. Ugh, it's complicated.
I guess maybe approach it from the POV that includes both of you? Something like, "I'd like to have a conversation where both of us feel like our points are being heard." Would that work?
Laga - Dec 06, 2019 6:04:53 am PST #6729 of 8211
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
thank you yes that is very helpful! I think I tend to approach people problems the same way I approach thing problems and that can leave people feeling like I see them as things.
Zenkitty - Dec 07, 2019 7:31:33 am PST #6730 of 8211
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
quester, that's horrible. Some companies are really shitty to their employees. No wonder you're stressed out. I hope it works out well for you.
Laga, I hope you find a way to have that conversation. Steph's suggestion sounds good. Sometimes the other person is just primed to get mad and they will no matter what you say.
I am depressed and feeling a bit hopeless today. I'd go for a walk but my ankle hurts too much.
quester - Dec 08, 2019 2:07:17 pm PST #6731 of 8211
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
I'm more than a little worried about the coming week and the weeks after. Rumors are flying that there will be 4 round of this.
any ~keep my job ma would be appreciated!
aurelia - Dec 08, 2019 5:50:24 pm PST #6732 of 8211
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
Employment~ma to you, quester.
Laura - Dec 09, 2019 2:10:51 am PST #6733 of 8211
Our wings are not tired.
Job~ma for you, quester.