What Dana said. Not going to go to the merits of what was said -- just that this board isn't the spot to continue something that happened on Facebook. (Especially when -- and please correct me if I'm wrong -- at least one central person in the matter doesn't participate on this board.)

I am sure it was messy af, and I believe Fay's version of events. But I also agree with Dana (and Fred) that this didn't happen here and is best handled (or not) by the parties involved. I understand someone was blocked, so she must be aware that she offended, right? What purpose does bringing it into B.org or Buffistas on FB serve? The offending party is unlikely to be brought around since she chose to delete her comments rather than issue an apology.

And {{{Windsparrow}}}. Losing a pet is so hard. Sending love to you.

I just really want to know if "showing your ass in public" is a euphemism.

(Cross posted from FB, with some alterations and additions because brevity is beyond me:)

It isn't an ongoing discussion afaic - I'm not interested in any further dealings with Trudy beyond this because I have ABSOLUTELY lost respect for and interest in her.

I regret the discomfort other people feel about this, but I have just experienced the online equivalent of someone coming to your home, elbowing into a conversation you're having with a guest, slapping them in the face, taking a massive shit on the rug then wrecking the CCTV footage and running away yelling "wow, Fay, you really shouldn't have shat on the rug!"

While I appreciate that y'all don't want to hear about my bruised guest or shitty rug, and that having said rug waved around in your own nice congenial living room makes the room stink, and that without the CCTV footage I cannot present a decent case in a court of law, at THIS point I'm pretty much just interested in tarnishing the guest-slapping rug-shitter's name because I am still reeling and my rug is covered in her shit.

I am not asking anyone else to clean the rug, or to set up a jury to decide where the shit came from, or whether her shit actually stinks. I'm just interested in making that stink cling to her since she clearly thinks she got away scot free.

Whether or not you trust her around your own rugs and guests in the future, or conclude I shat on the rug myself, will be your own call.

I return you to your previously scheduled programming, with apologies for the stink.

I really really really really really would prefer that fights that start in other neighborhoods not be brought home.

I agree with JZ. I am not comfortable with this being brought in here.

As someone with a shit covered rug from the same houseguest from many years ago I completely understand Fay.

I get the bad history and I saw some of the recent kerfuffle as it happened on FB and I understand the anger; I just don't feel comfortable with this exact way of dealing with it (maybe the group page over on FB is a better place to hash it out, or Bureaucracy?).

I think "Lebowski" is awesome. Didn't really follow that convo on FB, not sure it belongs here either...