'Hell Bound'
Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
We shouldn't be twinsies on this. It sucks. Well, neither of us should feel this way. We should be twinsies in not being overwhelmed.
We should work on this plan. Sharing our mutual wardrobes, and not being overwhelmed. #LifeGoals
Oh, god. I was gonna say, using kids as weapons? Is one of the shittiest things a person can do.
Seriously, what a dick move.
I'm really good lately at making plans that I'm really looking forward to at the time I make them and then dreading them and making myself a nervous wreck about them as they get closer. Father's Day? Sure I do that every year. Why should this year be any different? Then I watch as my toddler destroys the house.
Then I watch as my toddler destroys the house.
Which people know, and should understand.
I hope so. I'm going to be finding cheerios at different corners of my house until ltc goes off to college.
Steph, of course you feel stressed and overwhelmed! That's a lot of stuff!
Can you prioritize some, and decide which things are most important, and which ones would be OK with a "Sorry I can't make it, but happy birthday, and here's a funny e-card!"?
Hil is right on this, and I'm going to add that it's not a case of "can you prioritize some", but that you need to. And hell, don't be shy about inventing a sudden migraine that means you need to stay home. You need to look after yourself.
(I was about to write "You need to look after yourself, so you can look after others" , but remembered that this is a mindset my therapist is trying to break me of.)
I think this is one of those "Stop being mean to my friend Teppy" situations. As others have said, not being selfish. It's hard to be there for others if you can't put your own oxygen mask on first. And I have so been there on the "I just want a fucking weekend with NOTHING SCHEDULED." Because it's not being self-involved, and it's not crazy. It's self-care, and it's important. Can you take a sick day from work or something like that, just a day where you put out the "closed...leave me the fuck alone or I will cut a bitch." sign?
Steph, what Debet said. Is it possible to get out of anything by claiming a 24-hour bug? (Just to be clear -- Actually catching a 24-hour bug is not necessary here.)
Find a bug with a 24-hour life span. You have your 24-hour bug.
Yeah, if a friend told me they couldn't come to my party because they were exhausted and super stressed from whatever their situation might be, I would think, "Oh man, that's a lot for Friend to handle! I hope she gets through it all OK." I can pretty much promise you I would not think to myself, "What an unreasonable bitca." Wishing you some down time soon, Teppy.
I hope so. I'm going to be finding cheerios at different corners of my house until ltc goes off to college.
I'd suggest getting a dog, but that would really just exchange one issue for another.