but the police should also be able to figure out what is idiotic and rascist,

Honestly they have not been good at making this call.

Right? Our police department hasn't stumbled into killing black people (Sam Dubose was killed by a University of Cincinnati public safety officer, not Cincinnati PD), and based on my very limited interactions with them, they seem fine. But I am SUPER white and educated, so of course they seem fine to me.

I definitely wrestled with calling the police, but in the end, the kids' welfare won out. The little girls are only 5 and 6, for god's sake. My parents didn't physically abuse me, but they were horrible in the verbal/emotional abuse sense. And so I will not stand by and let kids be abused -- in any manner -- if I have the ability to do something.

The sad thing is that I'm sure the visit from the police office today had zero effect on Garbage Mom.

She might move her abuse indoors. sigh ....

In related news, a politician was handing out fliers to his constituents and someone called the police on him. He's planning to introduce a bill that would criminalize such calls (i.e., calling police on people who are just ... being while not-white).

She might move her abuse indoors.

Oh, I've never doubted for a second that she does far worse to them indoors. The way the kids react to her (cringing, trying to stay as far away as possible from her) is what you see in kids who are being abused regularly.

My brother and nephew are off moving to VA. The faux SIL is already there. Some travel~ma for them because my brother has a cold.

Had breakfast with them and had a last Snuggles with Skye with my nephew.

I'm about to run errands and then head down to Matthew's . I have tomorrow off so I'm squeezing in time with him since the next time will be next week. Also I may cry on his shoulder a bit.

A lot of changes and I don't do well with changes. Work is stressful.

On top of that I am feeling more like I want to move in with Matthew. We've talked about it and he is ready but I'm not sure I am.

It would mean transferring to another store as well. It's an hour from his house to work and when the weather is bad it's longer drive.

I keep thinking what if we take the plunge and we break up or something.

How did any of you know you were ready?

I can't seem to remember how I knew I was ready to move to Vermont. Except I hated my job and was afraid I was going to get fired.

askye, you know I will always tell it like I see it! I think your brother moving, changing job locations, and moving in with Matthew is a whole lot of change at once. Particularly with the added stress of a hard commute. My opinion. You have come a long way and that is a lot to put yourself through at once. (mama bear mode)

What Laura said.

Agreeing with Laura.

Yeah. You are right. If I jump too soon it will not work out.

More realistically I've been thinking spring is better to think about it. I have spent a week with him and driven back and forth to work and that is a decent stop gap measure.

I also need to see my therapist. I haven't this month because my new health insurance kicked in and I have the deductible to worry about.

I lost track of the month and time swept by so now I need to get a refill on my meds and don't think that will happen until Tuesday at the earliest and I'll run out on Monday. I have cut it close the last 2 months . The psychiatrist is only in Tuesdays and Thursdays and I have to pick up the prescription.

I also have to get a replacement for my prescription refill coverage card for my insurance as I've lost that.

And because of my anxiety in dealing with insurance (which is why I haven't gotten a replacement) I just enrolled in my Rally health thing to earn money toward my HSA ams may not have enough time to finish challenges and lose out on some free money from the company.

I have a DBT skils book for anxiety and I need to start working on those exercises.

Blah. I need to have a colonoscopy (because the doctors still haven't figured out where my anemia is coming from), and I was figuring I'd take an Lyft there and back, but I just got the instructions for the procedure, and it specifically says that they won't let you leave in a cab unless there's someone else with you. Seriously?