I made that same call once, for a black man hitting what looked a 4-year-old repeatedly with a belt, in public. The police said it was a cultural difference and didn't come. I was floored.

I was once accused of racism against some Latinx neighbors because I objected to them leaving their (neatly wrapped) garbage in the hallway.

I know I would feel the same way, Steph, but beating children is not the same as a permit or camping or sleeping, there is an actual danger to young humans. We shouldn't call the police for idiotic things, but the police should also be able to figure out what is idiotic and rascist, and the lack of that ability shouldn't make us not call 911 for real danger. I really warred with myself when I found a black homeless man at the bus stop passed out/dead. I made up my mind I would try to rouse him, and if he didn't rouse I would call. I thankfully was able to rouse him. But I hope if he was unable to wake up and I called, it wouldn't have gone badly. I couldn't just let him die, though. Your only other choices were confronting the mom yourself, which would be dangerous or just letting it go, which would also haunt you.

I grew up in a small town, and I would not hesitate to call there. It makes me sad that it is because, among other thing, we are all white. And I am probably going to know the police officer and their family and they will know us. And they probably will be respectful. And I am sad that is partially because of white privilege, but the police need to be fixed so they treat everyone the way they treat me. I can't stop calling for truly dangerous situations

but the police should also be able to figure out what is idiotic and rascist,

Honestly they have not been good at making this call.

but the police should also be able to figure out what is idiotic and rascist,

Honestly they have not been good at making this call.

Right? Our police department hasn't stumbled into killing black people (Sam Dubose was killed by a University of Cincinnati public safety officer, not Cincinnati PD), and based on my very limited interactions with them, they seem fine. But I am SUPER white and educated, so of course they seem fine to me.

I definitely wrestled with calling the police, but in the end, the kids' welfare won out. The little girls are only 5 and 6, for god's sake. My parents didn't physically abuse me, but they were horrible in the verbal/emotional abuse sense. And so I will not stand by and let kids be abused -- in any manner -- if I have the ability to do something.

The sad thing is that I'm sure the visit from the police office today had zero effect on Garbage Mom.

She might move her abuse indoors. sigh ....

In related news, a politician was handing out fliers to his constituents and someone called the police on him. He's planning to introduce a bill that would criminalize such calls (i.e., calling police on people who are just ... being while not-white).

She might move her abuse indoors.

Oh, I've never doubted for a second that she does far worse to them indoors. The way the kids react to her (cringing, trying to stay as far away as possible from her) is what you see in kids who are being abused regularly.

My brother and nephew are off moving to VA. The faux SIL is already there. Some travel~ma for them because my brother has a cold.

Had breakfast with them and had a last Snuggles with Skye with my nephew.

I'm about to run errands and then head down to Matthew's . I have tomorrow off so I'm squeezing in time with him since the next time will be next week. Also I may cry on his shoulder a bit.

A lot of changes and I don't do well with changes. Work is stressful.

On top of that I am feeling more like I want to move in with Matthew. We've talked about it and he is ready but I'm not sure I am.

It would mean transferring to another store as well. It's an hour from his house to work and when the weather is bad it's longer drive.

I keep thinking what if we take the plunge and we break up or something.

How did any of you know you were ready?

I can't seem to remember how I knew I was ready to move to Vermont. Except I hated my job and was afraid I was going to get fired.

askye, you know I will always tell it like I see it! I think your brother moving, changing job locations, and moving in with Matthew is a whole lot of change at once. Particularly with the added stress of a hard commute. My opinion. You have come a long way and that is a lot to put yourself through at once. (mama bear mode)

What Laura said.