I haven't talked to them because bringing it up hurts too much. I thought that just the fact that I chose to move to the town my brother and one of my sisters live in would have told them.
I was included for a few months but then gradually, less and less until I wasn't ever called or asked. Now, I will get an occasional, out of the blue invitation, but that's all.
I mean, they were there when I needed help, but in between, when I just would like to hang, they are too busy with their families.
I have this terrible feeling that I'm lumped together with my 2 older sisters as the weird old, maiden aunts that no one talks about. Thing is, I don't enjoy hanging with my 2 older sisters myself. But, I can't control how they think of me.
I'm too poor to make plans to do things. I can't afford gifts for the little ones. I have no craft outlet to make things. I just feel useless and not adding to anything.
It's hurting just to write this.
Oh, quester, I'm so sorry. Family can be so hard, and so confusing. I'm sorry you're hurting.
((Hair pats and hugs)) we like you though.
I'm sorry, quester. It really does suck. I hope that trying to communicate your desire to spend time with them helps. They may think you don't want to be included. Family communication is so often whack.
The whole family balance thing is tricky. I've tried to be extra nice and sociable with family and friends that I dumped from FB during the election. We do a lot of talking about sports.
Not that I think you should have to buy kids things, but dollar stores are really wonderful for getting a little something for kids. You can get little four packs of bubbles that can be split amongst the kids, crayons, coloring books, and sidewalk chalk. And the kids love that stuff.
Hell, kids of a certain age would love an empty box. ;-)
Also, that. And if ltc is the kid, empty tissue boxes or catalogues.
I'm sorry, quester. Family can be cruel and it's so hard to deal with. I hope this gets better for you.
The staples are out of my leg, all 30 of them (ouch), and I've got a hard cast on. That makes things easier. There's less worry about smacking my foot into stuff. And today I'm off to DC with a friend to meet some other friends. I have some trepidation but it should go well. We're going to see Wonder Woman!
Still haven't seen GOTG2 though. Dammit.
I'm extremely jealous of everyone who gets to see Wonder Woman this weekend, but I am going to see Hedwig and the Angry Inch this weekend. So that helps. I don't have a sitter to see anything else at the moment. I haven't seen GOTG2 yet either.
quester, I'm so sorry. That's really painful. The only way I've dealt with what's left of my bio-fam being a huge disappointment is by finding and nurturing created families elsewhere. But that's never a perfect solution.
Glad things are getting easier, Zen.
Yay for seeing Hedwig, sj! My default ringtone is a guitar riff from "Sugar Daddy," and has been for years.
