Can you text him to bring you something specific? Sorry if this isn't helpful. When I get hangry, everything seems very complicated and not worth the effort.

While Murderbiscuit is an awesome cat, I'm pretty sure that no one visits someone else just to pet their cat. She's visiting to cry for help, and/or to passive aggressively lash out at her boyfriend via Tim and you. Not that you have any responsibility to give her help. Again, I'm sorry you're in the middle of this.

Or maybe she is legit having a bad moment and is trying to be around people and/or animals so she doesn't do anything stupid? There are definitely times where I would like nothing more than to just roll up to someone's house and say "I am here to pet your cat and be around a person so I don't do stupid things, you do not need to feed or entertain me". But I say that as someone who's having kind of a bad night right now and not as someone who feels trapped and hangry.

While Murderbiscuit is an awesome cat, I'm pretty sure that no one visits someone else just to pet their cat.

You haven't met him, though. (Nah, it's true. And he attacks human hands like he's out for vengeance upon all cats throughout history. So, not that fun to play with.)

She's visiting to cry for help, and/or to passive aggressively lash out at her boyfriend via Tim and you. Not that you have any responsibility to give her help.

I mean, I think she's legitimately in a painful situation. But we are not her support system. I can't be.

So I stomped through the dining room, got a box of crackers, and I'm angrily eating them and watching Leverage. Still starving. I need a goddamn burger or something.

Okay, she's gone and Tim is going out to get us burgers. The crackers were insufficient.

And I am so goddamn glad I have therapy tomorrow.

Maybe have a talk with Tim about keeping that kind of crazy out of your house.

Those people are seem plain fucked up with very little chance of sorting out their shit.

The odds are likelier that they will drag you down more than you can buoy them up.

Suzi, how do you plan to get Jason Momoa's arm? This is very exciting!

Maybe have a talk with Tim about keeping that kind of crazy out of your house.

I forgot to say last night, after she left, I asked him why he didn't at least text me to tell me she was coming over, and he said that she didn't ask him/tell him she was going to come over. And I was so caught off-guard by her just showing up, announcing she's suicidal, and coming on in that I didn't know how to respond.

So, yeah. We need to work out a better plan for the future.

Those people are seem plain fucked up with very little chance of sorting out their shit.

The odds are likelier that they will drag you down more than you can buoy them up.

Not!son is almost 40 and is a vortex of chaos, poor decisions, and lies. And substance abuse. I made it crystal clear to Tim that I am absolutely NOT being a part of any more addicts' lives, and that includes not!son. I just didn't expect his hot mess of a GF to show up on our doorstep.

I don't know what to say, Steph. I believe your therapist will be able to help you know what resources there are to assist someone in that kind of crisis that will put the responsibility square on the shoulders of people who have the training and knowledge to help.

Quester, I'm sorry. How sad for their loved ones. Also contemplating our own fragility ain't no picnic.

I'm so sorry, Tep. What a terrible situation. Good job not actively raging.