May the nap be renewing for both of you, sj.

Thanks, Laura. I woke up with a headache, but at least I got some sleep.

Jilli, ltc's favorite new show is Vampirina, on the Disney Channel.

Tim's boss is paying for not!son to stay in a moderately sketchy motel near work. I have no idea for how long. And, the thing is, since I decided I am staying out of this from now on, then I'm also staying out of this decision, too. Though I told Tim he might want to sit down with his boss tomorrow and be VERY clear about not!son's situation, just so boss knows what's what.

I don't bear not!son any ill will. Certainly not. I don't want him to freeze (the lows are going to be in the 20s this weekend). But *I'm* not going to be responsible for him not freezing any longer. Thanks to Tim's boss, not!son will be warm and can get a shower and a good night's sleep. And that's that.

I like that mountain metaphor, KB.

Hope you're rid of the bedbug man for good, Tep.

Tim's boss must like Tim very much to do that for him.

It's a small family business, and the boss is Tim's cousin. Although that certainly doesn't have to mean that Tim's cousinboss likes him a great deal. But yes, he does. His family is, in general, exceptionally good-hearted, kind people.

I hope that it ngoes well with Tim's not son and his boss.

I took a nap amd wemt to worm amd feel better. Right now I'm working on the fudge bars.

I got a goofy card. I tried to find a sentimental card for a guy who is not a husband, father ,son or grandfather and no luck. So instead I got a card with a kitten shooting rainbows out of its eyes.

heres a trick I learned about managing emotion. My emotions are not my core. They are changeable like the weather. I think I am the mountain, moods blow past, and I am still standing when the clouds break.

That's a good visualization, Katie B.

The universe , like everyone else, is telling him to get his act together.

yes, this

Laura, Steph, it's so hard to keep those boundaries clear. I respect you both for doing it.

Bedbug not!son needs to be in AA and working the program. Not taking the shelter bed with all the services etc. shows he hasn't hit bottom, isn't willing to deal. So far, he's been right that family won't make him face his problems on his own. Hope he doesn't burn the cousinboss. You're doing all the right things, Steph.

I can't sleep, I'm in so much pain from TMJ or something about my upper retainer. Half my face is on fire. The orthodontists who made my night guard and retainer gave me an emergency appointment. Wondered if it was a stroke or heart attack as I schlepped to the East Bay, it was spreading down my neck. I told the assistant and the orthodontist that it seemed that it was the retainer, but the orthodontist wasn't having it. It didn't hurt so much when she was snapping it in and out of my mouth. Talking about it helped in the moment. So I didn't insist.

Came home, put TENS on my jaw, shoulder, massage, nodded off all eve. Tried the retainer on after brushing teeth before bed, and it was SO a dumb thing to do. Back on fire.

Gone through a couple of ice packs. Ibuprofen isn't doing much of anything. Our city just collected old meds for disposal, I know what I have. I usually forget they are here. I wonder if I can take hydrocodone APAP 5-500 after the Tylenol? Or I have this other one called celecoxib-100.

Times like this are when living alone is a drag. I don't know what to do when I'm in pain like this, like I can't think clearly, and I don't have anyone I can talk it over with.