Like, if it were Tim, I WOULD BE GOOGLING ON HIS BEHALF. WTF, not!son's girlfriend? WTF. I AM SO FULL OF RAGE ASSCAPS.

Oh, Steph. I'm sorry. And I'm sorry if my earlier attempt at humor seemed flippant or callous.

I had to scroll back, because I didn't even remember it through my ragefog. Not flippant or callous at all -- it made me laugh, which is impressive, given the ragefog.

Do people help their fellow man while also being FULL OF HULK RAGE?

Maybe not their fellow man, but certainly family. Or, whatever this guy is to you, which is not family, but is closer than "total stranger."

Family: the gift that keeps on giving. Giving you rage.

Oh good, I was hoping to make you laugh.

Is this normal? Do people help their fellow man while also being FULL OF HULK RAGE? Because my attitude is roughly "I will help you BUT I AM SO ANGRY AT YOU RIGHT NOW, YOU MOTHERFUCKER DO NOT EVEN LOOK AT ME."

In a word, YES. I know it's hard for you to feel like you have a right to anger, so let me just validate you here: YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ANGRY. It is super normal to be pissed off while trying to help someone who *should* be able to do these things for themselves. It's normal to be angry that you have to be "the mean one." However much you can keep feeling your anger and keep letting go of any self-judgment for it, please try. I think a walk is a great idea.

You are not a fucking Hallmark heroine. You do not have to play the role of the silent, long-suffering partner who only expresses her displeasure through pursed lips and doing the dishes slightly louder than usual.

Ugh, Teppy. I'm so sorry.

We're home. I took ltc to Friendly's because early morning freak outs require ice cream, right? I'm out of milk and didn't want to drag ltc out of the car again. So I bought two milks at the drive through. Not sure if that counts as a parenting win or fail.

I say win, sj.

And now I want ice cream.

My client left the key for me as usual this morning but forgot to turn off the alarm, so that was some excitement. She was in a PT session but eventually called to give me the code. The cops showed up forty minutes later (oh, NOLA) but since I am a NWL and was continuing to work calmly outside and could show them a key (though they did not check that it worked), they just went on their way.

So that was my little bit of morning excitement.

Ha. Did I ever mention the time, maybe last Christmas, when my parents went to church in the morning and turned the alarm on out of habit? So that when husband and I got up, it triggered the motion sensors?

Alarms are really loud.

Is this normal? Do people help their fellow man while also being FULL OF HULK RAGE? Because my attitude is roughly "I will help you BUT I AM SO ANGRY AT YOU RIGHT NOW, YOU MOTHERFUCKER DO NOT EVEN LOOK AT ME."

IME, yes,totally normal.

Sounds like a win to me, sj.

So much to sigh about on that smonster. Glad it wasn't more of a hassle for you.

Is this normal? Do people help their fellow man while also being FULL OF HULK RAGE? Because my attitude is roughly "I will help you BUT I AM SO ANGRY AT YOU RIGHT NOW, YOU MOTHERFUCKER DO NOT EVEN LOOK AT ME."

It is totally normal, and completely justified. Would it be possible for you to talk to Tim about how not!son needs to handle his own situation, and if he needs SOME help, Tim should be the one, not you? And by "possible for you to talk to Tim", I mean possible without it making you even more full of Hulk rage?

I realized I needed lunch before I could take a walk. So I'm eating lunch while I'm raging.

Would it be possible for you to talk to Tim about how not!son needs to handle his own situation, and if he needs SOME help, Tim should be the one, not you?

We have talked about it, and Tim is on board with it. The enabling is all coming from me. I come from a family of addicts. Enabling is second nature to me. But it is self-serving, too, because if I find him a homeless shelter, it gets not!son out of my goddamn driveway and house.

Enabling is second nature to me.

My sister?

But it is self-serving, too

Whatever gets you peace of mind the fastest is what I'm in support of.