And almost sixty-five percent of that was actual compliment. Is that a personal best?

Xander ,'End of Days'


Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


askye - Jan 25, 2017 9:40:46 am PST #6131 of 30002
Thrive to spite them

I broke my no FB (and then only FB comments on what I wrote this morning) decision and saw one of my cousins say a politely negative thing about the women's march and I commented. I probably shouldn't have but.. I have no fucks to give about burning that bridge.


Dana - Jan 25, 2017 9:55:21 am PST #6132 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

I literally spent 20 minutes on the treadmill and came back to the news that Mary Tyler Moore died.


shrift - Jan 25, 2017 10:00:45 am PST #6133 of 30002
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty

I literally spent 20 minutes on the treadmill and came back to the news that Mary Tyler Moore died.

What?! Shit.

And he pointed out that there are those who felt they had no choice and now regret it but feel that if they say anything they'll get vilified by Trump supporters and by liberals.

I don't know about this, therapist dude. Making a terrible choice that will hurt far more people than it will help and regretting it, but not wanting to say anything because people might be mean to you about that bad thing you did? Still a fucking choice. They weren't forced to do that against their will.

I would respond to your therapist that those people need to accept consequences of their actions and get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.


askye - Jan 25, 2017 10:11:01 am PST #6134 of 30002
Thrive to spite them

WeLloyd my therapist does have to see both sides. And gave compassion for all his clients.

I don't have to.


Steph L. - Jan 25, 2017 10:12:16 am PST #6135 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

I literally spent 20 minutes on the treadmill and came back to the news that Mary Tyler Moore died.

What?! Shit.

Oh, for fuck's sake. I saw earlier that she was hospitalized, and then I did some work, and now she's dead? Good god, 2017. Cut the bullshit.


askye - Jan 25, 2017 10:14:57 am PST #6136 of 30002
Thrive to spite them

We do not need to learn how to grieve 2017. 2016 took care of that.


Steph L. - Jan 25, 2017 10:16:07 am PST #6137 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

my therapist does have to see both sides. And gave compassion for all his clients.

I disagree. He has to focus on the patient in front of him, and not discount their feelings at the expense of other patients. Unless you're telling your therapist that you're out hunting down Trump supporters to punch, then when you tell your therapist your feelings, then the two of you talk about YOUR feelings, not the hypothetical feelings of another hypothetical patient.

I'm a bit tetchy about this, because I'm pretty sure tomorrow morning's therapy session is going to be about my overwhelm at the tsunami of Trumpian bullshit, and I'd probably blow a gasket if she told me to think about the hypothetical feelings of a hypothetical Trump voter.


shrift - Jan 25, 2017 10:18:15 am PST #6138 of 30002
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty

my therapist does have to see both sides. And gave compassion for all his clients.

Very true. I mean, a therapist would probably talk about how those clients should try to forgive themselves, whereas I just want to shove their noses in dog shit so they remember not to do this again next time.

Edit: Also, what Steph said.


meara - Jan 25, 2017 10:30:20 am PST #6139 of 30002

I did check to see what the ten year prizes were just for kicks. Nothing exciting.

Jesse, flatware is totally something I've been thinking about! I have a set that I got from my mom many years ago, that's fairly decent but doesn't have quite enough forks? Plus I have a bunch of random ones that ended up there through roommates or the time I decided to buy like ten super cheap forks so I'd quit running out. But I am picky about what I want, so don't think the particular choice in the website is one I want. I may go with a random crystal bowl? Because then I could put shit in it?


P.M. Marc - Jan 25, 2017 10:39:35 am PST #6140 of 30002
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Yeah, he can feel it if he wants to, but fuck, it's not his place to make their case. Unless he was talking about himself, in which case, still not his place and he can go fuck himself.

I don't know about this, therapist dude. Making a terrible choice that will hurt far more people than it will help and regretting it, but not wanting to say anything because people might be mean to you about that bad thing you did? Still a fucking choice. They weren't forced to do that against their will.

RIGHT?