Liese, that took an enormous amount of courage, and an equal amount of love, to share it with someone in hopes it would help. Thank you.

On the pill front, one of mine needs to be taken first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, an hour before I eat. If I'm up before the alarm, I'll take it and go back to bed until the alarm. But I leave the bottle on the vanity counter, because it being there means "You took this already." If it's not there, I'll just take the medication again, and then wait another hour for breakfast. Bottle in plain sight on the countertop works.

I take morning meds and evening meds, two of them both morning and evening. I keep morning meds in the side table drawer and when I sit for breakfast I'll put them in the sake cup by my place. When I go dress, I take the (now empty) cup to the bathroom and put in the evening meds, and bring the cup back to the side table, and add the second dose of the two, so all the pills are ready for after the evening meal.

DH does much the same thing, but he uses two stainless steel cups from the kitchen store, meant to hold salt and crushed garlic, etc. The cups are slightly different shapes, one for morning meds and one for evening. If we travel, or will be out at a pill-taking meal time, we do have traveling pillboxes for one dose of meds.

Thank you, Liese, that was a very brave thing to do.

I think I need to stop talking about this now. I'm ending up painting DW in a bad light and that isn't fair, like I said before, she really is a good person. Most of the problems are probably mostly my fault anyhow, I just needed to vent because things are hard right now, but that probably wasn't the right thing to do.

Liese, you are awesome for sharing that. Thank you.

I have more to say, but the internet is down so I'm using my phone and I'm at the mercy of autocorrect, and typing is easier and faster for me than Swype is, so I'll just let it be for now.

Respect and gratitude for Liese. All the love for Gud and clan Gud.

So, at work we have a makerspace, and the makerspace has a laser engraver. And today at work someone used our chat reference service to ask, "I make artisanal cheeses and I was wondering if I could use the laser engraver to engrave something on an edible cracker or cheese." The answer, sadly, was no. But, epic question, mate!

Edit: I would bet money the questioner is from Northside.

Most of the problems are probably mostly my fault anyhow,

Gud, this scares me. This is not language people normally use in describing issues like this. It sounds like gaslighting to me. Marriage is a two-way street. This sounds decidedly one-way.

Please talk to a counselor. Please.

No, Gud, listen and listen to me very closely. Your wife may very well be a good person, but she is a good person who is wrong. I may be a good person, but I'm a good person who was wrong. I know your relationship is not mine, but in my case, most of the problems were not caused by my husband, they were caused by me, and those that were caused by him were often exacerbated by me.

Do not stop talking about it. Venting is a safe and healthy thing to do and if you can't do it with us, then please find a professional with whom you can.

Edit: I would bet money the questioner is from Northside.

If there's an artisanal cheesemaker in Northside and I don't know them, a great injustice hath been wrought.

Gud, venting is an okay thing to do. You are allowed to take care of yourself by talking to people who care about you. It concerns me that you have an urge to stop talking about this. Yes, there are things between spouses that are meant to be private and not shared outside the marriage, but no - being called ugly names and criticized is not a sacred trust. No one deserves to be treated that way. You deserve to be treated with respect and care. No matter how excellent a person your wife is in other ways, you still deserve better treatment.

Oh, artisanal cheese making laser enthusiast! Making it hipster indeed.

Now I wish I'd seen Liese's post but...hugs to all?