Gabriel: Are you trying to destroy this family? Simon: I didn't realize it would be so easy.

'Safe'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


Liese S. - Jan 18, 2015 1:23:39 pm PST #857 of 3157
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Oh, Allyson, this is all so natural a response. You shouldn't have to be writing her obituary. But you're doing as well as you can, and it's so good that you're doing all this tough work as a gift to her.


Callaluna - Jan 18, 2015 1:29:28 pm PST #858 of 3157

I think you are forgetting how fantastic you are, Allyson. Which I get, because I have been where you have been this past year and I know how easy it is to forget your own worth. But truly truly, not only do you have lovely hair, but you are awesome. ita was probably my number one Buffista idol, practically a celebrity in my brain because of all the awesome. But you? You are probably number two.

Get out of bed, put one foot in front of the other, and just go through the motions. Eventually it will get easier and at some point you'll realize you are living again instead of just pretending.


Steph L. - Jan 18, 2015 1:38:39 pm PST #859 of 3157
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Allyson, it is 100% bullshit. And you have pretty, pretty hair.


Aims - Jan 18, 2015 1:39:30 pm PST #860 of 3157
Shit's all sorts of different now.

100% bullshit.


P.M. Marc - Jan 18, 2015 1:44:39 pm PST #861 of 3157
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

There's no way for this to not suck. Your brain is going to lie to you a lot. Because this sucks.


Lilty Cash - Jan 18, 2015 1:51:50 pm PST #862 of 3157
"You see? THAT's what they want. Love, and a bit with a dog."

Allyson, it is stupid, and wrong, and against all laws of what should be or makes sense. And I'm sorry that you have to do it. Because it is stupid, and wrong, and stupid. But you're doing great.


JenP - Jan 18, 2015 1:54:05 pm PST #863 of 3157

It is completely wrong. Having to cope with it shouldn't be happening, because this shouldn't be happening. I wish I had better words than I'm sorry. I know how amazing you all were, are, and will be for ita and her family. That's a thing beyond measure.


Allyson - Jan 18, 2015 1:55:37 pm PST #864 of 3157
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

I handed the obit off to Burrell. I'm going to put on shoes and go get her family the phones they need. That much, I can do.


beth b - Jan 18, 2015 2:00:43 pm PST #865 of 3157
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

good idea.

because it is wrong

and some one else can do it.


Betsy HP - Jan 18, 2015 2:02:19 pm PST #866 of 3157
If I only had a brain...

Take care of yourself, Allyson. We all wish you the best in this worst of times.