Allyson, it is stupid, and wrong, and against all laws of what should be or makes sense. And I'm sorry that you have to do it. Because it is stupid, and wrong, and stupid. But you're doing great.
You'll fight, and you'll shag, and you'll hate each other till it makes you quiver, but you'll never be friends.
Spike ,'Sleeper'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Lilty Cash - Jan 18, 2015 1:51:50 pm PST #862 of 3157
"You see? THAT's what they want. Love, and a bit with a dog."
JenP - Jan 18, 2015 1:54:05 pm PST #863 of 3157
It is completely wrong. Having to cope with it shouldn't be happening, because this shouldn't be happening. I wish I had better words than I'm sorry. I know how amazing you all were, are, and will be for ita and her family. That's a thing beyond measure.
Allyson - Jan 18, 2015 1:55:37 pm PST #864 of 3157
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I handed the obit off to Burrell. I'm going to put on shoes and go get her family the phones they need. That much, I can do.
beth b - Jan 18, 2015 2:00:43 pm PST #865 of 3157
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
good idea.
because it is wrong
and some one else can do it.
Betsy HP - Jan 18, 2015 2:02:19 pm PST #866 of 3157
If I only had a brain...
Take care of yourself, Allyson. We all wish you the best in this worst of times.
amyth - Jan 18, 2015 2:06:32 pm PST #867 of 3157
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
That sounds like a plan. Do what you can, and let others help where they can.
And your hair is very pretty.
JenP - Jan 18, 2015 2:07:25 pm PST #868 of 3157
Good plan. Fabulous hair.
Topic!Cindy - Jan 18, 2015 2:08:11 pm PST #869 of 3157
What is even happening?
Burrell, I was just going to offer this to Allyson: I am not close to ita, and certainly wasn't close the way you are, but if I can help you write her obit, I will do whatever. I feel particularly impotent, right now. This is a way in which I can be of use.
Allyson, please stop being hard on yourself. You got out of bed (or at least plan to). Hooray. You've been going through intense, medical treatments. Get your shoes on, get the phones, and then stop by the emotional break store and by yourself a double dose. Also? Ice cream and maybe some exquisite hair product.
Betsy, it is nice to see your pixels here.
sarameg - Jan 18, 2015 2:13:33 pm PST #870 of 3157
I've been a little knocked for a loopy about how of my grief is manifesting in anger. I'm being careful with my words because it spirals out so easily.
Everything is wrong and there's no perfect picture or obit that can BE ita and that's the worst bullshit ever. I resent those things for fucking existing in the same thought as her.
So yeah. Get up in the morning and do something. Resent the hell out of it. It will suck. But you'll leave another mark on your world, and right now, that matters a helluva lot.
Betsy HP - Jan 18, 2015 2:15:39 pm PST #871 of 3157
If I only had a brain...
It's been really nice to see everybody again, Cindy. I hope to be here more often.