Yes, smonster, one of my faves too. And thank you, Ginger, for putting all the photos in one place.
Bester: Mal. Whaddya need two mechanics for? Mal: I really don't.
'Out Of Gas'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Nicole - Jan 18, 2015 9:06:19 am PST #847 of 3157
I'm getting the pig!
Consuela - Jan 18, 2015 9:09:53 am PST #848 of 3157
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Oh, so many fabulous pictures in there!
Burrell - Jan 18, 2015 9:16:31 am PST #849 of 3157
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I love her expression in this one
That was a face she made. One thing I love about those photos is how often I'm struck by "yes, I remember that face!"
WindSparrow - Jan 18, 2015 9:19:04 am PST #850 of 3157
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
In addition to the ER doctors, i have a lot of rage for the doctor who cut her off from the visiting nurse. He knew she could not get adequate help in the ER. That is why he arranged the visiting nurse in the first place.
Yeah. That's on a slow burn for me.
Lee - Jan 18, 2015 9:20:06 am PST #851 of 3157
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
I thought the same thing, Burrell
Burrell - Jan 18, 2015 9:21:11 am PST #852 of 3157
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Allyson, I'll email you in a moment but just touching base here. WRT photos and words for the service, we can offer her sister the pictures that Ginger collected on flickr. And for words, that's why I'm emailing you.
quester - Jan 18, 2015 9:31:57 am PST #853 of 3157
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
In addition to the ER doctors, i have a lot of rage for the doctor who cut her off from the visiting nurse. He knew she could not get adequate help in the ER. That is why he arranged the visiting nurse in the first place.
we need to find out exactly who that doctor is.
Zenkitty - Jan 18, 2015 10:50:04 am PST #854 of 3157
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
In addition to the ER doctors, i have a lot of rage for the doctor who cut her off from the visiting nurse. He knew she could not get adequate help in the ER. That is why he arranged the visiting nurse in the first place.
Me too. I want to know his rationale for that. I also want to kick him in the balls, repeatedly.
Topic!Cindy - Jan 18, 2015 12:45:41 pm PST #855 of 3157
What is even happening?
I've had 3 experiences like the one you had in my own life.
Me too, and I woke up exhausted on Sunday morning from these crazy dreams - I told my husband about some of them, including one "all the Buffistas were at a swimming pool, sitting around the edge, but someone was in th pool and sinking super-deep, like ocean-deep and I was trying to dive in and rescue her and caught a glimpse of close-cropped ochre hair. I thought "Oh, it's ita, of course she can swim, she's probably OK."
Then I spent Sunday wondering what my brain was using ita and Buffistas as a metaphor for.
I didn't have prophetic death dreams about ita, but I have had them about several relatives who died and I had them in close enough proximity (and pre-proximity) that I cannot ignore them.
I hope these dreams comfort you, one day.
I cannot believe this gorgeous, brilliant, fierce woman is gone. I reject this reality and substitute one of my own (which is so not no-ita).
Thank you all for sharing your moments. I'm sorry this is all so hard.
Allyson - Jan 18, 2015 1:07:21 pm PST #856 of 3157
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I've been having a hard time getting out of bed. Writing her obituary is such horseshit. Talking about her in the past tense is stupid and wrong.
I'm either in denial, angry, or sleeping. I was going through photos looking for the "perfect photo" for her obituary. That's such incredible bullshit. This is so wrong. Everything is wrong. I'm struggling to find reasons to get up in the morning, with my perfectly not-in-pain head.