The response is, "No comment, except to say, 'Welcome to Sweden.'"
Ah, yes, of course. The gypsies, they gave you your soul. The gypsies are filthy people. Ptui! We shall speak of them no more.
Ilona Costa Bianchi ,'The Girl in Question'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Sean K - Jan 14, 2015 8:34:06 am PST #333 of 3153
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
Allyson - Jan 14, 2015 8:42:19 am PST #334 of 3153
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I am completely unqualified to be helping her family. I am so stupid and ridiculous. I don't know why she put me in charge of communicating with her family. And they keep thanking me and asking how I am. I wish they wouldn't thank me.
Please no hair pats. I don't think I can take it.
erikaj - Jan 14, 2015 8:43:54 am PST #335 of 3153
Always Anti-fascist!
If I can help somehow, I will.
Betsy HP - Jan 14, 2015 8:46:24 am PST #336 of 3153
If I only had a brain...
Allyson, this isn't a hairpat, this is a statement of fact.
There is no good way to handle the dreadful business of coordinating a beloved child's death. None. There is only "best I can manage at the time". This is a horrible thing to have to do, and the horror is inherent to the situation.
There is no platonic standard. There is no right way to do this.
sj - Jan 14, 2015 8:47:21 am PST #337 of 3153
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
What Betsy said.
P.M. Marc - Jan 14, 2015 8:47:25 am PST #338 of 3153
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Not a hair pat, but if they keep thanking you, you're not doing it wrong, even if it feels like it. Can one of the other core locals spot you with it?
Steph L. - Jan 14, 2015 8:48:28 am PST #339 of 3153
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
I am completely unqualified to be helping her family.
This is so fucking hard. Is there any way we can help? Like, can you order in food so you don't have to deal with cooking? (I mean, duh, you live in LA; you can order in food.) It's wholly inadequate, but my money is your money and I will send you $$ so you can order some damn dinner.
Nilly - Jan 14, 2015 8:49:19 am PST #340 of 3153
Swouncing
I don't know why she put me in charge of communicating with her family.
Can you trust her judgement? That if this is what she chose to do, then this is how she wanted it and thought it should be?
erikaj - Jan 14, 2015 8:52:24 am PST #341 of 3153
Always Anti-fascist!
I told my mom that if I didn't have her, you might be my contact, too. You're good at those things, Allyson, and ita's family knows you love her.
Ginger - Jan 14, 2015 8:55:05 am PST #342 of 3153
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
ita put you in charge of communicating with her family because she loved and trusted you. I don't believe there's some hypothetical person who could do it better.
So, for the ita book. I'm collecting some of the things people have said here and on Facebook, but I'd really like y'all to think of memories of ita and/or what it meant to you that you want to include in the book and post them here.