I told my mom that if I didn't have her, you might be my contact, too. You're good at those things, Allyson, and ita's family knows you love her.
I'd rather stay home and watch television. It's often funnier than killing stuff.
Anya ,'Dirty Girls'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
erikaj - Jan 14, 2015 8:52:24 am PST #341 of 3153
Always Anti-fascist!
Ginger - Jan 14, 2015 8:55:05 am PST #342 of 3153
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
ita put you in charge of communicating with her family because she loved and trusted you. I don't believe there's some hypothetical person who could do it better.
So, for the ita book. I'm collecting some of the things people have said here and on Facebook, but I'd really like y'all to think of memories of ita and/or what it meant to you that you want to include in the book and post them here.
Allyson - Jan 14, 2015 8:59:53 am PST #343 of 3153
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
Oh god, yes. Kat, Norah, Paula, Kristen, even Paula's sister is flying in to help. It's definitely not all on my shoulders. I didn't mean to insinuate that I was doing everything. I'm just a conduit.
They are planning to come in on Sunday. I sent some hotel recs. I asked if it would ok to draft her obituary.
I asked if they needed any financial help, this will be an expensive visit, but Moji hasn't responded to that. I hope if they need, they will say so.
Colin has also offered to help with things here.
The Blacklist sent us matzo ball soup and black and white cookies yesterday, so I can have that for dinner. Thank you for the offer, Steph. It means a thing.
Glamcookie - Jan 14, 2015 9:00:35 am PST #344 of 3153
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Allyson, I am 100% sure you are doing it "right," whatever that means in a situation that is so wrong. ita's family knows you love her and are grieving alongside them. That means a lot. I hope you are taking care of you, too.
Nilly - Jan 14, 2015 9:01:53 am PST #345 of 3153
Swouncing
Allyson, if there's anything I can do from a distance, I'm yours.
I didn't mean to insinuate that I was doing everything.
It's not what I understood from your posts, so I don't think there are any worries regarding that.
Steph L. - Jan 14, 2015 9:02:08 am PST #346 of 3153
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
I asked if they needed any financial help, this will be an expensive visit, but Moji hasn't responded to that. I hope if they need, they will say so.
Please let us know that, too. If any of her loved ones need help getting to LA, the least I can do is contribute some $$.
bon bon - Jan 14, 2015 9:11:42 am PST #347 of 3153
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
Would local or otherwise people be interested in a chance to get together? I was thinking I could have an open house Monday (assuming most people have the day off). I understand if it doesn't feel right. But I can get some sandwiches in, people can come by and talk and drink. I have a lot of room. I live in Northridge.
P.M. Marc - Jan 14, 2015 9:11:52 am PST #348 of 3153
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Given that this is a trip they never intended, nor should ever have had to take, I would be honored to contribute what I can to helping financially, and I bet a lot of people would, too. If they're willing to let us help, when they gave us so much in the form of ita, can you or one of the LAistas let us know.
I know we have people who kick ass at handling that sort of fund raising.
sj - Jan 14, 2015 9:19:06 am PST #349 of 3153
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I asked if they needed any financial help, this will be an expensive visit, but Moji hasn't responded to that. I hope if they need, they will say so.
I am more than happy to contribute.
-t - Jan 14, 2015 9:21:19 am PST #350 of 3153
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
What Betsy said, Allyson. There is no making this okay for them, but what you are doing is helping. Not a hairpat, statement of fact.
I was never in the same room as ita, but I do consider her a close friend. My life is better because I knew her, and I am a better person for knowing her. Whether she ever considered me a close friend, who knows, maybe not, but that's okay, lopsided friendships are okay and real.