Sending inteview~ma and job~ma your way, ita!

"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"

Ugh. She sounds like a nightmare, self-absorbed to the point of solipsism. I recommend for your own peace of mind to not give her any space to set up shop inside your head. Because you're right, she can't even imagine what it would be like to be someone else and make other choices for her husband and her son.

Also, I would reinforce what Steph said. You just need to get through this for now.

Is she *just* malicious, or also a huge dipshit?

I know I'm not objective on this, but summoning (truly) all my objectivity -- both.

And, guys -- thanks. I'm trying all I can to make this easier, and you guys are really being the best help.

Thanks for the ~ma! That went well! I had specific experience relevant to the job (which I now understand although I still have no idea how they got my resume), and I got a lot of "Exactly!" out of her.

So I think I did my best--the key is no one doing better...

Strix, she leaves me wordless, honestly. Isn't moving with your spouse the default?

Wait, new boss?? When did that happen?

The very end of June/beginning of July. Wait, I don't know if I talked about it around here! The very short form is that a high-up manager (almost VP) of a project I worked on at Microsoft contacted me. The project had gone through a bunch of changes, was a separate product, and owned by a different company now. And hey, he needed a good tech writer/editor who would rule the content process with an iron fist in a lace glove, because their current writer was leaving in two weeks, and what was I up to nowadays.

Five days later, I had a job offer. There's no Seattle office yet, so I'm working from home, which is FANTASTIC.

"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"

Oh my.

That went well! I had specific experience relevant to the job (which I now understand although I still have no idea how they got my resume), and I got a lot of "Exactly!" out of her.

Excellent!

And yay, Jilli!

What -- BOTH of you would move?!

I'm just... Wow... Just when you think she can't surprise you.

I truly get how tough it is to make this move, but I honestly feel you are going to be happy once the miserable transition phase is behind you.

Thanks for the ~ma! That went well!

Woo!

Glad to hear it, ita!

ANd yours, Jilli. I think I had an inkling, but not so much specifics. Congrats!

Yay, ita! I hope it leads to good things.

The new job is pretty awesome. We just (as in 5 minutes ago) signed off on a release that, while not perfect, could have been embarrassingly horrible, especially from a content side. The entire management/build/project manager team are haling me as a miracle worker, and congratulation Ryan (the guy who headhunted me) on luring me to them.

After the complete shitstorm that was the last job, praise and validation feels REALLY GOOD.

Yay ita on the interview, and yay Jilli on finding such a good work situation. Even better, on the fact that they came looking for you.

Forget using an ergo desk set-up. My chiropractor want me to work while laying on my belly on the floor at least a couple of hours a day. Should be interesting.