Jilli, embrace away! You are a fucking rock star.
Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.
Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Strix - Aug 01, 2014 8:50:27 am PDT #3232 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Connie Neil - Aug 01, 2014 8:51:12 am PDT #3233 of 30000
brillig
Wait, new boss?? When did that happen?
Steph L. - Aug 01, 2014 8:54:06 am PDT #3234 of 30000
It's actually been a really hard year, when you stop and do the math. Eliot would cry, too, if it didn't take him seventy minutes of therapy, two cocktails, and a Sondheim medley before he can experience a human emotion through the haze of his PTSD.
Sorry to be a Debby Downer, but I am really struggling with this...like, it's the biggest life change I would ever make, and it's not a choice I would make of my own violition.
You are not a Debby Downer about this! It's an enormous life change, and it's like...shit, you mean those wedding vows were FOR REAL? Fuck, man.
I think (FWIW) that at this point you don't need to think about reinventing yourself or recapturing your former self, or anything like that. That's long-range. Or medium-range. But at this point, you need to take care of yourself to get through this. Self-actualization can come later.
EpicTangent - Aug 01, 2014 8:56:05 am PDT #3235 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
my new boss has called me "a major talent upgrade".
Not to mention a huge style upgrade.
Strix - Aug 01, 2014 9:22:58 am PDT #3236 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Tep is wise.
Also (just for lulz), the ex -- when told that D AND ME had discussed the move, and we were both agreed on it -- her response was "What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
WTFF? I'm supposed to divorce my awesome husband because he loves his kid so much he'll move cross-country because he's a great, engaged father?! Don't judge me by your "run when things get hard" yardstick, babe. Just because it's hard, I don't bail. I may be a hot mess right now, but I'm a FIGHTING hot mess.
Connie Neil - Aug 01, 2014 9:31:09 am PDT #3237 of 30000
brillig
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
But--that doesn't fit in with her grand plan to drag D back into her clutches!
Steph L. - Aug 01, 2014 9:33:56 am PDT #3238 of 30000
It's actually been a really hard year, when you stop and do the math. Eliot would cry, too, if it didn't take him seventy minutes of therapy, two cocktails, and a Sondheim medley before he can experience a human emotion through the haze of his PTSD.
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
Is she *just* malicious, or also a huge dipshit? Because I'm sensing the latter.
-t - Aug 01, 2014 9:34:04 am PDT #3239 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
It's totally a big thing you are doing, Strix, and feeling anxious, terrified, etc. is totally natural. Let yourself have those feelings, it's okay. Glad you have the therapist to go to!
-t - Aug 01, 2014 9:35:21 am PDT #3240 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
HAHAHAHA people are so weird.
EpicTangent - Aug 01, 2014 9:46:13 am PDT #3241 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
I was going to post something earlier about how much I admired your unselfish choices in this, Strix (but I couldn't get the words right). I guess some of us admire people who put the needs of their loved ones before their own. And others are just bewildered by people who make unselfish choices. Geez Louise.