Jilli, embrace away! You are a fucking rock star.
Occasionally I'm callous and strange.
Willow ,'The Killer In Me'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Strix - Aug 01, 2014 8:50:27 am PDT #3232 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Connie Neil - Aug 01, 2014 8:51:12 am PDT #3233 of 30000
brillig
Wait, new boss?? When did that happen?
Steph L. - Aug 01, 2014 8:54:06 am PDT #3234 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Sorry to be a Debby Downer, but I am really struggling with this...like, it's the biggest life change I would ever make, and it's not a choice I would make of my own violition.
You are not a Debby Downer about this! It's an enormous life change, and it's like...shit, you mean those wedding vows were FOR REAL? Fuck, man.
I think (FWIW) that at this point you don't need to think about reinventing yourself or recapturing your former self, or anything like that. That's long-range. Or medium-range. But at this point, you need to take care of yourself to get through this. Self-actualization can come later.
EpicTangent - Aug 01, 2014 8:56:05 am PDT #3235 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
my new boss has called me "a major talent upgrade".
Not to mention a huge style upgrade.
Strix - Aug 01, 2014 9:22:58 am PDT #3236 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Tep is wise.
Also (just for lulz), the ex -- when told that D AND ME had discussed the move, and we were both agreed on it -- her response was "What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
WTFF? I'm supposed to divorce my awesome husband because he loves his kid so much he'll move cross-country because he's a great, engaged father?! Don't judge me by your "run when things get hard" yardstick, babe. Just because it's hard, I don't bail. I may be a hot mess right now, but I'm a FIGHTING hot mess.
Connie Neil - Aug 01, 2014 9:31:09 am PDT #3237 of 30000
brillig
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
But--that doesn't fit in with her grand plan to drag D back into her clutches!
Steph L. - Aug 01, 2014 9:33:56 am PDT #3238 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
Is she *just* malicious, or also a huge dipshit? Because I'm sensing the latter.
-t - Aug 01, 2014 9:34:04 am PDT #3239 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
It's totally a big thing you are doing, Strix, and feeling anxious, terrified, etc. is totally natural. Let yourself have those feelings, it's okay. Glad you have the therapist to go to!
-t - Aug 01, 2014 9:35:21 am PDT #3240 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
HAHAHAHA people are so weird.
EpicTangent - Aug 01, 2014 9:46:13 am PDT #3241 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
I was going to post something earlier about how much I admired your unselfish choices in this, Strix (but I couldn't get the words right). I guess some of us admire people who put the needs of their loved ones before their own. And others are just bewildered by people who make unselfish choices. Geez Louise.