Wait, new boss?? When did that happen?
Early: Where'd she go? Simon: I can't keep track of her when she's not incorporeally possessing a space ship. Don't look at me.
'Objects In Space'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Connie Neil - Aug 01, 2014 8:51:12 am PDT #3233 of 30000
brillig
Steph L. - Aug 01, 2014 8:54:06 am PDT #3234 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Sorry to be a Debby Downer, but I am really struggling with this...like, it's the biggest life change I would ever make, and it's not a choice I would make of my own violition.
You are not a Debby Downer about this! It's an enormous life change, and it's like...shit, you mean those wedding vows were FOR REAL? Fuck, man.
I think (FWIW) that at this point you don't need to think about reinventing yourself or recapturing your former self, or anything like that. That's long-range. Or medium-range. But at this point, you need to take care of yourself to get through this. Self-actualization can come later.
EpicTangent - Aug 01, 2014 8:56:05 am PDT #3235 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
my new boss has called me "a major talent upgrade".
Not to mention a huge style upgrade.
Strix - Aug 01, 2014 9:22:58 am PDT #3236 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Tep is wise.
Also (just for lulz), the ex -- when told that D AND ME had discussed the move, and we were both agreed on it -- her response was "What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
WTFF? I'm supposed to divorce my awesome husband because he loves his kid so much he'll move cross-country because he's a great, engaged father?! Don't judge me by your "run when things get hard" yardstick, babe. Just because it's hard, I don't bail. I may be a hot mess right now, but I'm a FIGHTING hot mess.
Connie Neil - Aug 01, 2014 9:31:09 am PDT #3237 of 30000
brillig
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
But--that doesn't fit in with her grand plan to drag D back into her clutches!
Steph L. - Aug 01, 2014 9:33:56 am PDT #3238 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
Is she *just* malicious, or also a huge dipshit? Because I'm sensing the latter.
-t - Aug 01, 2014 9:34:04 am PDT #3239 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
It's totally a big thing you are doing, Strix, and feeling anxious, terrified, etc. is totally natural. Let yourself have those feelings, it's okay. Glad you have the therapist to go to!
-t - Aug 01, 2014 9:35:21 am PDT #3240 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
HAHAHAHA people are so weird.
EpicTangent - Aug 01, 2014 9:46:13 am PDT #3241 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
I was going to post something earlier about how much I admired your unselfish choices in this, Strix (but I couldn't get the words right). I guess some of us admire people who put the needs of their loved ones before their own. And others are just bewildered by people who make unselfish choices. Geez Louise.
Burrell - Aug 01, 2014 9:52:03 am PDT #3242 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Sending inteview~ma and job~ma your way, ita!
"What -- BOTH of you would move?!"
Ugh. She sounds like a nightmare, self-absorbed to the point of solipsism. I recommend for your own peace of mind to not give her any space to set up shop inside your head. Because you're right, she can't even imagine what it would be like to be someone else and make other choices for her husband and her son.
Also, I would reinforce what Steph said. You just need to get through this for now.