During my usual 35-ish minute drive home from rehearsal, I think I missed a major accident on the freeway by about five minutes, if not less. Traffic could only get through on one lane, but it wasn't seriously backed up yet.

Two or three cars apparently involved, plus the SUV that was LYING ON ITS SIDE.

And then I came home and there's a roach in the bathroom. This is not a calming night.

I was totally a drama llama then, so can't say what's normal. "Lame" initially pissed me off as ableist, but sometimes now I think it fits. And I also don't want to be the crip that nobody can take a walk in front of(Because sometimes then people are afraid to talk about walking, or feet, or standing up for things...nothing like being the only one in the room to make you notice how often that comes up.

Eh, I kinda feel like on the one hand, "lame" tends to be pretty disassociated from its actual meaning/origins. On the other hand, kids who say "that's so gay" try to claim the same thing, and I'm not ok with that, so....yeah.

Oh, Gracie! Here's hoping for Grace, and calm for the moms.

I don't like "lame," but it's not to the point where I'd confront someone about it. If a kid in my class says "That's so gay" or "That's retarded," I'll say, "Not in my classroom," but I won't do the same for "That's lame."

Melodramatic, sure, but that behavior doesn't seem over the top to me for an 11 year old who has just been publically humiliated by his older brother, which is what I'm guessing it felt like to him. Embarrassment is a pretty raw emotion at that age.

(Full disclosure: I probably had a flair for melodrama myself at that age. AND I TURNED OUT TOTALLY FINE.)

WRT hysterical: I am fine with using it to describe humor, but call my hysterical when I'm upset about something and I'm gonna go for the knives. Not just me, I will call people on it if they describe an angry or upset woman as hysterical, because IME it is always used to dismiss her concerns.

Go Gracie! I hope everything goes perfectly tomorrow.

I don't like "lame," but it's not to the point where I'd confront someone about it. If a kid in my class says "That's so gay" or "That's retarded," I'll say, "Not in my classroom," but I won't do the same for "That's lame."

Yeah, like I said, if the MC had just used it unthinkingly or whatever, I would've flinched and moved on, and probably not said anything except maybe in that moment leaned over to the friend next to me and said "lame? really?". But since it went on....yeah.

I can't wait for the Fug Girls to do the Met Ball tomorrow--some fab and fug clothes indeed!

I'm looking at the NYTimes pics--

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Bad: Anna Wintour, Rihanna, Cara Delevigne, Stella McCartney (though I can't decide if maybe I actually really dig that she seems to be wearing pants??), Erykah Badu (no, the world does not need another Hat like Pharell's), Kristen Stewart (how do you SIT in that?), Shailene Woodley (it's like she's auditioning for something requiring a thematic dress??), Naomi Watts, Chloe Grace Moretz, Michelle Williams (it's a perfectly cute dress, but not for this event!), OMG WTF BRIE LARSON, Elizabeth Olsen seems to be wearing a misplaced ice skating outfit, Gabrielle Union can do SO much better, Katie Holmes needs to fix her hair, Rosamund Pike I love the happy look on her face but WTF is that outfit, Donatella looks like an evil villain, though she may be going for that look. I like something about Leighton Meester's dress, but not the waist. Sarah Paulson is a hot mess. Olivia Munn might look better in a different picture--in the NY Times one it's like she has a weird enormous knee tumor and needed to cover it? Cobie Smulders is ruined by the look on her face, Liu Wen looks like she has secret TENTACLES she's hiding, NPH you know I love you but NO. Sandra Lee is trying to literally be Cinderella. And failing hard.

Crazy But Awesome: Beyonce (the facenet makes me think of that lady at the SF Opera in the head cage), Mary Kate and Ashley (I love that they're like..Victorian meets business suit??), Florence Welch (only because she USUALLY wears stuff that is so out there...it's tame and awesome in comparison?), MAGGIE GYLLENHALL (love it. It's incredibly weird, but I love it), Marion Cotillard (only if I could make her change the shoes, and possibly the length), Janelle Monae because she is a queen, can't decide on Lily Allen, might dig the fringe on Michelle Monaghan, there's something I dig about Kate Upton's strange Spanish doña garb, Karolina Kurkova is of the "go big or go home" and I can't hate,

Charlize looks divine. So does Karlie Kloss. Sarah Silverman needs accessories. I love Lily Aldridge's silver dress, Lea Michelle is trying too hard. Selena Gomez has bad makeup, but she and Jessica Alba look lovely. Hayden Panetierre pulls off a pattern! I want to see the back of Zooey Deschanel's dress. Hailee Steinfeld looks beautiful!! Don't know who Arizona Muse is but love the dress (if not her hair), Karen Elson also lovely (apparently I dig Zac Posen for the most part?)

And oh, Lupita, I love you and know you can pull off so much more than many people, and the COLOR is great, but...no. You look like one of those weirdo Miss World contestants. No.

age 12 was the year I cried. At everything and nothing. So I 'm going to say that over reaction to embarrassment is not out of line. I'm more concerned with the hitting . But then again I grew up with no hitting as a rule of life. Not to say I never did, but there was rarely more than one punch. Of course, the older one being snotty wasn't great behavior - I'm going to guess that is a hot button for the 11 year old.