I don't like "lame," but it's not to the point where I'd confront someone about it. If a kid in my class says "That's so gay" or "That's retarded," I'll say, "Not in my classroom," but I won't do the same for "That's lame."

Yeah, like I said, if the MC had just used it unthinkingly or whatever, I would've flinched and moved on, and probably not said anything except maybe in that moment leaned over to the friend next to me and said "lame? really?". But since it went on....yeah.

I can't wait for the Fug Girls to do the Met Ball tomorrow--some fab and fug clothes indeed!

I'm looking at the NYTimes pics--

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Bad: Anna Wintour, Rihanna, Cara Delevigne, Stella McCartney (though I can't decide if maybe I actually really dig that she seems to be wearing pants??), Erykah Badu (no, the world does not need another Hat like Pharell's), Kristen Stewart (how do you SIT in that?), Shailene Woodley (it's like she's auditioning for something requiring a thematic dress??), Naomi Watts, Chloe Grace Moretz, Michelle Williams (it's a perfectly cute dress, but not for this event!), OMG WTF BRIE LARSON, Elizabeth Olsen seems to be wearing a misplaced ice skating outfit, Gabrielle Union can do SO much better, Katie Holmes needs to fix her hair, Rosamund Pike I love the happy look on her face but WTF is that outfit, Donatella looks like an evil villain, though she may be going for that look. I like something about Leighton Meester's dress, but not the waist. Sarah Paulson is a hot mess. Olivia Munn might look better in a different picture--in the NY Times one it's like she has a weird enormous knee tumor and needed to cover it? Cobie Smulders is ruined by the look on her face, Liu Wen looks like she has secret TENTACLES she's hiding, NPH you know I love you but NO. Sandra Lee is trying to literally be Cinderella. And failing hard.

Crazy But Awesome: Beyonce (the facenet makes me think of that lady at the SF Opera in the head cage), Mary Kate and Ashley (I love that they're like..Victorian meets business suit??), Florence Welch (only because she USUALLY wears stuff that is so out there...it's tame and awesome in comparison?), MAGGIE GYLLENHALL (love it. It's incredibly weird, but I love it), Marion Cotillard (only if I could make her change the shoes, and possibly the length), Janelle Monae because she is a queen, can't decide on Lily Allen, might dig the fringe on Michelle Monaghan, there's something I dig about Kate Upton's strange Spanish doña garb, Karolina Kurkova is of the "go big or go home" and I can't hate,

Charlize looks divine. So does Karlie Kloss. Sarah Silverman needs accessories. I love Lily Aldridge's silver dress, Lea Michelle is trying too hard. Selena Gomez has bad makeup, but she and Jessica Alba look lovely. Hayden Panetierre pulls off a pattern! I want to see the back of Zooey Deschanel's dress. Hailee Steinfeld looks beautiful!! Don't know who Arizona Muse is but love the dress (if not her hair), Karen Elson also lovely (apparently I dig Zac Posen for the most part?)

And oh, Lupita, I love you and know you can pull off so much more than many people, and the COLOR is great, but...no. You look like one of those weirdo Miss World contestants. No.

age 12 was the year I cried. At everything and nothing. So I 'm going to say that over reaction to embarrassment is not out of line. I'm more concerned with the hitting . But then again I grew up with no hitting as a rule of life. Not to say I never did, but there was rarely more than one punch. Of course, the older one being snotty wasn't great behavior - I'm going to guess that is a hot button for the 11 year old.

Good luck to Grace!

Best of luck to Grace!

I some pictures of Lupita where she was moving in her dress and...I kind of liked it.

Good luck, Grace!!

Eh, I kinda feel like on the one hand, "lame" tends to be pretty disassociated from its actual meaning/origins. On the other hand, kids who say "that's so gay" try to claim the same thing, and I'm not ok with that, so....yeah.

Yeah.

Best of luck to Grace today!

The hitting thing is not okay, and yet... it's a kid thing who doesn't have the ability to clearly say all of the mixed and pent up emotions.

Grace punches Noah a lot. More than we'd like. And we give her the punching lecture a lot. But.... it doesn't make much difference in her behavior. She tries, "Noah, STOP" or her favorite, "Stop it, Noah." But then she resorts to punching.

Thanks for all of the good luck wishes. She just left for the hospital with Katie.

Lots of ~ma for Grace.

Sending all the ~ma to Grace and family.

Younger siblings don't have a lot of tools to cope with older sib abuse. He kinda stood up for himself. Just hasn't figured out how to do that with more control.

My kids couldn't get away with 'gay' or 'retarded' at all, but I pretty much let lame go. I surely told them it wasn't appropriate more than once, but it gets to a picking your battles point. I'm confident they didn't make a connection to why it was offensive, but they knew clearly what the issue was with gay and retarded.