It's a Thanksgivvikuh miracle - my office is finally upgrading from XP to Win7!!
Xander, don't speak Latin in front of the books!
Giles ,'Lies My Parents Told Me'
Natter 72: We Were Unprepared for This
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jessica - Nov 26, 2013 4:04:41 am PST #12930 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Amy - Nov 26, 2013 4:06:23 am PST #12931 of 30000
Because books.
I just noticed your new tag, Jessica. Heh.
Fritters with stuffing and cranberries sound really good.
-t - Nov 26, 2013 4:16:16 am PST #12932 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
They're pretty dang delicious! And would probably be a swell way to deal with leftovers.
amych - Nov 26, 2013 4:55:58 am PST #12933 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
I plan to have at least one for breakfast to see if they are okay cold or how they reheat, so probably two
Science!
Kat - Nov 26, 2013 4:57:41 am PST #12934 of 30000
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
I feel like I have the opposite story to cultural appropriation, perhaps cultural abandonment. Noah refuses to believe he is Chinese. He has said, on two occasions, "People keep saying I'm Chinese but they are wrong." Essentially. When I tell him he is wrong and ask him what he is, he says, "White" and then offers up his inner arm as proof.
In some ways, it's true that he is culturally midwestern more than anything else. But he doesn't go to Chinese school, I never cook Chinese food, we don't speak Chinese or read it. So, lots of markers of culture for him are missing.
I feel like I'm failing at parenthood. But I too am pretty much Chinese in name only.
Jesse - Nov 26, 2013 5:00:59 am PST #12935 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
It seems like the problem is conflating race and culture, and being a minority. I mean, I'm as German as you are Chinese, but no one on the street would insist that I am German, because I get to be "regular American."
msbelle - Nov 26, 2013 5:03:41 am PST #12936 of 30000
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
mac would only draw himself as white for at least 3 years after the adoption. He did his 3rd grade multi-cultural day presentation on the US, NY state. He will never volunteer up that he is African, but I just plug away at pride and culture, hoping he gets it from osmosis from the items around our house and the restaurants we eat at. Also me making him watch marathons.
Amy - Nov 26, 2013 5:05:45 am PST #12937 of 30000
Because books.
Also, can't being Chinese mean whatever it means to him, later on? Like Jesse said, I'm Irish the way you're Chinese, but it just means (to me) that I have ancestors who experienced a certain type of culture/historical events in Ireland.
Also, you're not failing at parenthood.
Kat - Nov 26, 2013 5:05:53 am PST #12938 of 30000
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
I guess, too, I think the most defining part of his life and Grace's life will be growing up as set of twins, one of which has pretty high intensity special needs, to two gay parents. Culture is just going to be lower on his list of identifiers, maybe.
Kat - Nov 26, 2013 5:07:08 am PST #12939 of 30000
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
But Noah is so adamant about NOT being Chinese. Then when he is almost ready to admit he is, he will look at Katie and say, "Are you Chinese too?"