Daniel, that's one of the nice things about facebook. It can make bye-bye time very very clear - both your deciding and their knowing.

I don't think it crossed his mind to ask or to care. The distributor was PISSED at him though.

That ultimately benefits you as a beer writer, because you've proven you respect an embargo. Even if the blogger didn't know there was an embargo, you're the professional one here.

That said, I'd be ragey in your shoes, too. Because being the one to get the scoop is fan-goddamn-tastic.

And w/r/t my own work, my new boss (I should just start calling her my boss, huh?) emailed me maybe 5-10 minutes after the feedback email and said that she was told about another medical journal, not owned by the AMA, who needs a freelance editor/writer for consumer-level stuff, and she's recommending me.

So maybe I'll hold off on that fry cook job. For now.

Because being the one to get the scoop is fan-goddamn-tastic.

Getting the scoop is the best! So much fun. You get linked and attention and stuff!

But, yes. I definitely value being trusted and respected over getting the scoop.

YAY (new) boss validation!

Once, on the job previous to the current, I handed in some editorial work to my boss. I had cleaned up the hot mess that was his tables and figures, and he looked at it and said, "oh, don't bother, we don't care about that; that's just editing." Excuse me? What am I here for? NO respect. I stayed in that job about three weeks; I never bugged out of a paying position so fast ever.

I need to designate somebody and give them passwords to all my online destinations so H can contact them if I get hit by a bus or something.

I have a letter, or info sheet really, of what to do in case I die or disappear, that I keep updated and give to my three best friends and my sister. It has the make, model, and license plate of my car, the contact info for all four of them, all my contact info, the names of my cats, the login/passwords of places where they'll need to announce my untimely demise, and anything else I felt they'd need to know. It makes me feel better knowing they have it. If they ever need that info, at least they'll have it all in one place.

Daniel, I'm sorry about your job, but I'm SO GLAD you are out of a toxic workplace.

Staying at my dad's a few days ago, while he was on his trip to Africa, I noticed that he and his wife left out their will/trust papers. Yes, I looked. Apparently, I'm second on his end of life decision maker list, after his wife. Would be nice if I knew his wishes - but I can't ask without telling him I was snooping.

I also don't really get how a trust works.

My shaky understanding of a trust, based on my sister's explanation of hers, is that a trust doesn't have to go through probate. If the owner of a trust dies, the assets held in the trust go to the beneficiaries, simple, as would happen with an insurance policy.

Despite my tag, I defer to those who know more about it than I do.

Since both my dad and his wife are part of the trust - (and this sounds so morbid to ask) do they both have to die for there to be a distribution of assets?

I believe so. There is often gifting upon the death of individuals. And even though my Dad had trusts, we still went through (are going through) probate. Estate planning is complicated and can be done in a million ways. It's better to talk about it, if you can. Which, honestly, I can't most of the time. It's tough even without trying to bring it up after casual snooping.

Since both my dad and his wife are part of the trust - (and this sounds so morbid to ask) do they both have to die for there to be a distribution of assets?

I think that depends on how a trust is written.