I believe so. There is often gifting upon the death of individuals. And even though my Dad had trusts, we still went through (are going through) probate. Estate planning is complicated and can be done in a million ways. It's better to talk about it, if you can. Which, honestly, I can't most of the time. It's tough even without trying to bring it up after casual snooping.
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Cass - Nov 14, 2013 11:18:08 am PST #6291 of 30002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Trudy Booth - Nov 14, 2013 11:25:19 am PST #6292 of 30002
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Since both my dad and his wife are part of the trust - (and this sounds so morbid to ask) do they both have to die for there to be a distribution of assets?
I think that depends on how a trust is written.
SuziQ - Nov 14, 2013 11:26:16 am PST #6293 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
I feel horrible for snooping. But I've been trying to figure how to ask since my mom died. My main concern is if I do have to be "the one" who makes medical decisions. I don't really know his wishes and they didn't appear to be spelled out in the pages I skimmed.
I have a friend whose brother just had a horrible heart attack and is technically brain dead, but different parts of her family are arguing over what should be done and pulling "the one" in very different directions.
Beverly - Nov 14, 2013 11:29:21 am PST #6294 of 30002
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Suzi, could you bring it up that way? Mention your friend and the surrounding kerfuffle, and sort of sliding into, "If I was your designated person, how would you want me to proceed?"
Toddson - Nov 14, 2013 11:41:45 am PST #6295 of 30002
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Or segue into it with the friend's issues, state your wishes, then ask what theirs are?
Trudy Booth - Nov 14, 2013 12:02:02 pm PST #6296 of 30002
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Presumably you should be putting the same things in place for YOUR kids... it could be a morbid bonding experience.
NoiseDesign - Nov 14, 2013 12:06:19 pm PST #6297 of 30002
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Also, a trust for dealing with financial assets can have nothing to do with a medical directive.
meara - Nov 14, 2013 1:05:23 pm PST #6298 of 30002
Presumably you should be putting the same things in place for YOUR kids... it could be a morbid bonding experience.
Hah--my sister and I went through it one Christmas and are basically on the same page, but my brother in law was horrified at how we discussed it. You'd think he know us by now. (We were both of the "pull the plug once everyone has gotten there/had a chance to say goodbye, and donate anything you can except the face. Because tha would be weird"
brenda m - Nov 14, 2013 1:22:23 pm PST #6299 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Can I steal that language for my directive?
meara - Nov 14, 2013 2:26:55 pm PST #6300 of 30002
Hah. Of course, Brenda! We also said "have a nice funeral, then burn me up, scatter me someplace cool, and I only need a grave if like, I have kids and they want to go to it. Just or the love of god don't stick my ashes in a closet and leave them there, like Grandma"