It might be hard work if you have the personality type that has to have their won way all the time, and I know some in this category that can't manage to keep a relationship solid.
I fully admit that part of what makes our marriage so easy is that while I am extremely opinionated and bossy, Tim is unbelievably easygoing and agreeable and often doesn't even want to be the one to decide stuff (like what to have for dinner), so a lot of the time I get my way by default. But I try to be really mindful of the times he actually expresses a preference and go with it, since he's pretty undemanding otherwise.
OK I'll be the person who says the work that goes into a marriage can be good and also be hard work that sometimes feels a bit onerous at time. Other times, no, the work can feel good and harmonious, and still other times it can feel hard but I can feel good about it because it feels like good work. But there are days that just suck, and I don't think it's because either Cody or I are terrible people and/or terrible at marriage. Parenting is the same way. Sometimes it feels hard but good and other times it is just hard and I don't enjoy it one bit.
Perhaps relatedly, Zen I must thank you for your advice WRT Tryptophan. You were very helpful.
Nothing wrong with having a marriage that is work, in my opinion. If it's worth it, it's worth it. No judgment on my end.
I wasn't feeling judged, Pix, but thank you. More that I felt it was necessary to state that saying marriage is hard sometimes isn't the same thing as saying marriage isn't worth it.
Living with another adult human is hard, but the benefits are awesome. Kids, yeah there is a lot of hard work there.
Thank you all. I have never felt like my marriage was hard work. There are times that are hard,but I'm never quite sure what people mean by hard work. Maybe because we have had enough struggles that i know we react differently when something difficult happens. It isn't easy , but I understand what is happening.
I'm sick. Blah.
If I was married, then I'd have someone who could bring me Day-Quil and soup, I guess, to try to be on topic.
My first marriage was often hard work, but this one really isn't. 23 years together and it is still shockingly easy to navigate. There have been times where we had to have some hard talks, but never without the sense that were in this together and our job was finding a solution that worked for each of us. We aren't happy happy joy joy at all times, but that's because life isn't like that all the time.
I'm not even going to pretend I've been keeping to the John H diet, or that I'm in any way a good Buffista, but I saw that vw bug (VALERIE!) had her little baby girl. I'm so happy for her and for Lloyd. I sent a PM on Twitter, but new moms don't have time to check all the sites, so I'm just checking in here to cheer for the birth of babygirl Stitch!
