My first marriage was often hard work, but this one really isn't. 23 years together and it is still shockingly easy to navigate. There have been times where we had to have some hard talks, but never without the sense that were in this together and our job was finding a solution that worked for each of us. We aren't happy happy joy joy at all times, but that's because life isn't like that all the time.
And don't you ever stand for that sort of thing. Someone ever tries to kill you, you try to kill 'em right back! ... You got the right same as anyone to live and try to kill people.
Mal ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Scrappy - Mar 12, 2016 2:27:53 pm PST #23590 of 30002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Topic!Cindy - Mar 13, 2016 4:21:30 pm PDT #23591 of 30002
What is even happening?
I'm not even going to pretend I've been keeping to the John H diet, or that I'm in any way a good Buffista, but I saw that vw bug (VALERIE!) had her little baby girl. I'm so happy for her and for Lloyd. I sent a PM on Twitter, but new moms don't have time to check all the sites, so I'm just checking in here to cheer for the birth of babygirl Stitch!
Steph L. - Mar 13, 2016 4:24:33 pm PDT #23592 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Cindy! I'm always happy to see you!
DavidS - Mar 13, 2016 7:09:31 pm PDT #23593 of 30002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Cindy! I'm always happy to see you!
Ditto! And yes, let us rejoice in the new Buffistae sproglings we've had in cohort this last year!
WindSparrow - Mar 13, 2016 7:48:42 pm PDT #23594 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Cindy... good Buffista? I thought the only good Buffista is a bad Buffista. We just have different ways of being bad. Some of which are very good. Being here is a good way to be bad. Being happy wherever you are is another fine way to be bad.
It's good to see you now.
Zenkitty - Mar 14, 2016 7:01:14 am PDT #23595 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Hi, Cindy!
Oh, no, it's Monday again.
Any other work-at-home people ever get awakened by a phone call from their boss and realize (a) you overslept badly, and (b) now you have to pretend to be at your desk and fully functional even though you really are not? That is a thing that just happened to me. Thank goodness for Caller ID.
Steph L. - Mar 14, 2016 7:12:20 am PDT #23596 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Any other work-at-home people ever get awakened by a phone call from their boss
Fortunately 99.5% of our communication is via email. Of course, if I oversleep and miss an early email, then I have to be like "I was editing XYZ and just saw this email..." and hope it's believable.
Nora Deirdre - Mar 14, 2016 7:15:56 am PDT #23597 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
I got unbelievably lucky meeting someone who can deal with all of my baggage (seriously, the man has infinite fucking patience for some shit I never talk about here). He's one in a bazillion in terms of compatibility. But we do the work. It's just enjoyable work.
Yep, indeed.
I do think a layer of crazy gets added when kids are in the mix, though. It's a lot easier when we don't have to worry about anyone, like, dying on our watch.
Zenkitty - Mar 14, 2016 7:19:05 am PDT #23598 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Fortunately 99.5% of our communication is via email. Of course, if I oversleep and miss an early email, then I have to be like "I was editing XYZ and just saw this email..." and hope it's believable.
Me too. My boss is a stickler about timely replies to her emails, too; if I don't respond within half an hour, she calls and starts grilling me about where I was. I don't know what she thinks I'm doing.
Steph L. - Mar 14, 2016 7:20:37 am PDT #23599 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
It's a lot easier when we don't have to worry about anyone, like, dying on our watch.
Holy shit, pets are stressful enough. I walk around the house saying stuff like "Kato, stop licking the floor! Toke, stop eating that plastic bag! Slinky, don't eat Toke's food!" and realize that with kids, that would be amplified by a million.