I wasn't feeling judged, Pix, but thank you. More that I felt it was necessary to state that saying marriage is hard sometimes isn't the same thing as saying marriage isn't worth it.
Everybody plays each other. That's all anybody ever does. We play parts.
Saffron ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Burrell - Mar 12, 2016 11:17:55 am PST #23585 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Zenkitty - Mar 12, 2016 11:52:09 am PST #23586 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Perhaps relatedly, Zen I must thank you for your advice WRT Tryptophan. You were very helpful.
Excellent, I'm glad!
Laura - Mar 12, 2016 11:52:13 am PST #23587 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
Living with another adult human is hard, but the benefits are awesome. Kids, yeah there is a lot of hard work there.
beth b - Mar 12, 2016 12:30:58 pm PST #23588 of 30002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Thank you all. I have never felt like my marriage was hard work. There are times that are hard,but I'm never quite sure what people mean by hard work. Maybe because we have had enough struggles that i know we react differently when something difficult happens. It isn't easy , but I understand what is happening.
Hil R. - Mar 12, 2016 2:14:53 pm PST #23589 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I'm sick. Blah.
If I was married, then I'd have someone who could bring me Day-Quil and soup, I guess, to try to be on topic.
Scrappy - Mar 12, 2016 2:27:53 pm PST #23590 of 30002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
My first marriage was often hard work, but this one really isn't. 23 years together and it is still shockingly easy to navigate. There have been times where we had to have some hard talks, but never without the sense that were in this together and our job was finding a solution that worked for each of us. We aren't happy happy joy joy at all times, but that's because life isn't like that all the time.
Topic!Cindy - Mar 13, 2016 4:21:30 pm PDT #23591 of 30002
What is even happening?
I'm not even going to pretend I've been keeping to the John H diet, or that I'm in any way a good Buffista, but I saw that vw bug (VALERIE!) had her little baby girl. I'm so happy for her and for Lloyd. I sent a PM on Twitter, but new moms don't have time to check all the sites, so I'm just checking in here to cheer for the birth of babygirl Stitch!
Steph L. - Mar 13, 2016 4:24:33 pm PDT #23592 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Cindy! I'm always happy to see you!
DavidS - Mar 13, 2016 7:09:31 pm PDT #23593 of 30002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Cindy! I'm always happy to see you!
Ditto! And yes, let us rejoice in the new Buffistae sproglings we've had in cohort this last year!
WindSparrow - Mar 13, 2016 7:48:42 pm PDT #23594 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Cindy... good Buffista? I thought the only good Buffista is a bad Buffista. We just have different ways of being bad. Some of which are very good. Being here is a good way to be bad. Being happy wherever you are is another fine way to be bad.
It's good to see you now.