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Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Connie Neil - Sep 21, 2014 4:02:04 pm PDT #13371 of 30002
brillig

On my monthly To Do list, I have dates that I pay specific bills. I divided them up between paychecks, and I keep reminding myself that so long as I keep up with the ones that are due and ignore the others, that it's not so bad.


Anne W. - Sep 22, 2014 2:11:41 am PDT #13372 of 30002
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

Thanks, all. Simply being able to get this out there in writing and getting some acknowledgement was a huge help. Even though I had embarked on my new plan, the mental chorus of stupid-failure-irresponsible was not going away. I think it will try to crop up again from time to time, but I'm not gonna let it win.


WindSparrow - Sep 22, 2014 3:33:22 am PDT #13373 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Typo, my suggestion is to double check your mother's medical coverage - some plans will pay for those (especially as they are a bit preventative), some won't. And of course, some will pay for some but not as many as a person might actually use. Second suggestion is to check local pharmacies - sometimes they have more economical options on compression stockings.

Anne, don't beat yourself up about the LALALALA. You were simply not ready at that time to deal. You are now. Giving yourself that time to not deal gave you the space to GET ready. Now you are, so go at it wholeheartedly. And when you are tempted to vent your frustrations by ragging on yourself, practice the self-discipline of speaking to yourself the way you would speak to a beloved friend. You might admit the existence of past mistakes, but you wouldn't harp on them - instead you would encourage a focus on the here and now.


Zenkitty - Sep 22, 2014 5:33:54 am PDT #13374 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

I'm trying not to freak out/beat myself up over being several thousand in debt.

Anne, I'm in the same boat, for what it's worth. Some of it was my trips to the UK, which I don't regret but didn't exactly budget for properly. Also I've been in a hole of depression for a while, and that leads to me spending money and not watching where it goes. Somehow, *utterly mysteriously*, I've got nearly ten thousand in credit card debt, when I was totally clear three years ago. And I feel like such an irresponsible dummy. I *know* better. So, yeah. Right there with you, paddling up the river.

I'm in the process of clearing out a lot of clutter, and instead of dumping it all at Goodwill, I'm thinking of trying to sell a bunch of it on eBay, not that I think I'll make enough to make a serious dent in the debt, it's more like, if I put out the effort to list and pack and mail all this stuff, it'll make some kind of visceral memory that will help me stop myself the next time I'm tempted to buy some shiny little thing that I don't really need.


Laura - Sep 22, 2014 6:10:42 am PDT #13375 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.

Anne, I think most of us have gone down that road at some point, including the beating ourselves up about it part! At one point I told my mom I had debt beyond her wildest dreams. Our focus at this point is to get rid of it completely. It is a slow process, but I think it can happen.


Steph L. - Sep 22, 2014 6:22:21 am PDT #13376 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

I married Tim AND his debt (I don't count the mortgage; this is credit card debt). It's not awesome, but it happened, and we're working on it. We just have to keep moving forward with it.


Ginger - Sep 22, 2014 6:41:47 am PDT #13377 of 30002
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

You know how they say that your life flashes before your eyes when you think you're about to die? What flashes before my eyes is the knowledge that my mother will see my credit card debt.


Zenkitty - Sep 22, 2014 7:18:20 am PDT #13378 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

You know how they say that your life flashes before your eyes when you think you're about to die? What flashes before my eyes is the knowledge that my mother will see my credit card debt.

Oh, good grief, yes. I come from a family of ultra-thrifty penny-counting misers who can keep multiple ledgers in one checking account accurate down the penny. If my sister knew how much debt I'm carrying right now, she'd disown me. Or worse, scold me. My mother is probably checking my bank accounts from Heaven and shaking her head sadly.


Sue - Sep 22, 2014 7:21:16 am PDT #13379 of 30002
hip deep in pie

I have been bad with debt for the last little while too. It's not quite out of control, but a lot higher than I would like. It's going to be an austerity year, except for the fact that I've already committed travelling to England next fall.


Calli - Sep 22, 2014 7:56:39 am PDT #13380 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I was in debt from the moment I left college until I was in my 40s, and it wasn't all student loan debt either. I'm still not in a position to buy a house. (Not that I know where I'll be in three months anyway.) Finances can be hard. And the middle class as lost a lot of money since the 70s, so the distance between where many of us think we should be and where we really are can be great and growing.