I know it is fine to not be okay right now, but I still feel people are expecting me to reassure them that I'm fine.
Fuck them and their expectations. Not your problem! (...life would be easier if we could all manage that, eh?)
Right. Sir. Honey.
Zoe ,'The Train Job'
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meara - Jun 13, 2014 8:34:39 am PDT #11336 of 30002
sj - Jun 13, 2014 8:37:45 am PDT #11337 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I'm sorry if I added to it.
What? No, absolutely not.
We're still doing Father's Day at our house. I really don't want to, but TCG does. I did however reschedule our theatre tickets for tomorrow to a couple of weeks from now because I don't have enough spoons for that too.
SuziQ - Jun 13, 2014 8:42:29 am PDT #11338 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Laura - I've used the "will be" when I didn't have the spoons. If people pressed, they usually ended up with a teary Suzi and quickly learned to just leave it be.
Hil R. - Jun 13, 2014 8:51:55 am PDT #11339 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I know it is fine to not be okay right now, but I still feel people are expecting me to reassure them that I'm fine.
Reassuring other people is NOT your priority right now. It's not even close to the top of your list.
Fred Pete - Jun 13, 2014 8:54:07 am PDT #11340 of 30002
Ann, that's a ferret.
sj, you're going through major mess. Take care of yourself!
Other people can wait.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 13, 2014 9:34:00 am PDT #11341 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
I know it is fine to not be okay right now, but I still feel people are expecting me to reassure them that I'm fine.
What everyone else says. I like using the "No, but I will be" line to gently push people away and hopefully shut the conversation down.
This reminds me of the post that Allie Brosh did about depression after she came back to Hyperbole and a Half after a long hiatus:
I was also extremely ill-prepared for the position of comforting people. The things that seemed reassuring at the time weren't necessarily comforting for others...I had so very few feelings, and everyone else had so many, and it felt like they were having all of them in front of me at once. I didn't really know what to do, so I agreed to see a doctor so that everyone would stop having all of their feelings at me.
sj - Jun 13, 2014 9:38:05 am PDT #11342 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Nora, I just read that book recently, and I love her writing about depression. But I never truly understood the numb/not feeling anything that she was talking about, until now. Usually my depression is all about the feeling too much.
juliana - Jun 13, 2014 9:44:44 am PDT #11343 of 30002
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
sj, I am so sorry about all of the uncertainty. So much love to you and TCG.
Polter-Cow - Jun 13, 2014 10:30:33 am PDT #11344 of 30002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I'm so sorry, sj. {{sj and TCG}}
Steph L. - Jun 13, 2014 10:47:34 am PDT #11345 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Argh, you guys, my poor dad. He called me earlier to tell me that my aunt, his oldest sister (80-ish years old) was having knee replacement surgery today, and her heart stopped. Her granddaughter called him while the surgical team was still working, because what my dad said is that she isn't expected to survive, not that she had already died. But it doesn't sound good. And then he had to get off the phone because he had to go to work. Right after finding out his sister was probably dead. I feel so bad for him.
So I guess he'll find out for sure after work and call me later. I guess 80-ish isn't bad for a Lang, especially one who's had heart attacks and strokes. Still, that sucks. And Dad keeps losing siblings.
And I'm constantly amazed that he just keeps on trucking after 5 heart attacks. If I inherited his heart disease, I sure hope I also inherited his ability to shrug off a heart attack.