I have been supporting you with my brain, although not so much with the typing
I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said, but me too.
Kaylee: H-how did you... g-get on...? Early: Strains the mind a bit, don't it? You think you're all alone. Maybe I come down the chimney, Kaylee. Bring presents to the good girls and boys.
'Objects In Space'
Natter 71: Someone is wrong on the Internet
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jessica - Nov 27, 2012 10:14:20 am PST #2327 of 30001
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Beverly - Nov 27, 2012 10:22:09 am PST #2328 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Me too, Consuela.
DavidS - Nov 27, 2012 10:28:36 am PST #2329 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I'm mostly hoping your dad doesn't cave, Consuela.
-t - Nov 27, 2012 10:39:33 am PST #2330 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That all sounds awful, Consuela. I hope you all can get through it somehow, and it gets better.
Matt the Bruins fan - Nov 27, 2012 10:51:01 am PST #2331 of 30001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
Yikes Consuela, I hope things can be straightened out.
§ ita § - Nov 27, 2012 10:58:03 am PST #2332 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
She's utterly, completely, dependent on him
Emotionally, psychologically, you mean? At least she has caregivers for some of the more material stuff, so maybe he can grab micro-vacations?
Ah, I got nothing. I feel for you all.
Consuela - Nov 27, 2012 11:01:50 am PST #2333 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Thanks, everyone.
Is there any way to convince your father that no place is going to make her happy or turn her back into the woman she used to be, but at least she's safe at the residential facility? I've seen some pretty hard cases change their minds after a few weeks in a facility, but she's not going to do any adjusting if she's focused on leaving.
I called his cell about an hour ago, on the off chance he had it on, and I managed to talk with him for a few minutes. OK, I mostly talked and he mostly listened. But he seemed pretty calm, agreed that the move was the right thing to do, and didn't give any indication that he was about to cave to her. I reminded him of the time he got her to quit smoking (in the end, he had to threaten to leave her), and said this might be like that.
And then I talked to her, and she had no memory of the new place, and yet was all spun up about the mess of the old place and how fast we could sell the old furniture there. It was very odd.
So while she's going to be awful for a while, I'm much more comfortable with Dad's position. I don't think he's going to back down, it's just that his in-the-moment strategies for managing her are not very helpful. For a man who's been married to the same woman for 55 years, he's remarkably good at saying exactly the wrong thing to her.
msbelle - Nov 27, 2012 11:03:16 am PST #2334 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
the people from intervention need to be called in to talk to your dad. talking to mom is pointless, but I thik at this point he is not grasping how much damage he is doing by enabling.
msbelle - Nov 27, 2012 11:05:41 am PST #2335 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Goodness Consuela has she been like this your whole life?
Jesse - Nov 27, 2012 11:05:56 am PST #2336 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Can you imagine actually having Jeff Van Vonderen on call in your life? That would be amazing. "Mo-OM! It's not that.... you know what? Talk to Jeff."