Yikes Consuela, I hope things can be straightened out.
Aren't they something. They're like butterflies, or little pieces of wrapping paper blowing around.
Kaylee ,'Shindig'
Natter 71: Someone is wrong on the Internet
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Matt the Bruins fan - Nov 27, 2012 10:51:01 am PST #2331 of 30001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
§ ita § - Nov 27, 2012 10:58:03 am PST #2332 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
She's utterly, completely, dependent on him
Emotionally, psychologically, you mean? At least she has caregivers for some of the more material stuff, so maybe he can grab micro-vacations?
Ah, I got nothing. I feel for you all.
Consuela - Nov 27, 2012 11:01:50 am PST #2333 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Thanks, everyone.
Is there any way to convince your father that no place is going to make her happy or turn her back into the woman she used to be, but at least she's safe at the residential facility? I've seen some pretty hard cases change their minds after a few weeks in a facility, but she's not going to do any adjusting if she's focused on leaving.
I called his cell about an hour ago, on the off chance he had it on, and I managed to talk with him for a few minutes. OK, I mostly talked and he mostly listened. But he seemed pretty calm, agreed that the move was the right thing to do, and didn't give any indication that he was about to cave to her. I reminded him of the time he got her to quit smoking (in the end, he had to threaten to leave her), and said this might be like that.
And then I talked to her, and she had no memory of the new place, and yet was all spun up about the mess of the old place and how fast we could sell the old furniture there. It was very odd.
So while she's going to be awful for a while, I'm much more comfortable with Dad's position. I don't think he's going to back down, it's just that his in-the-moment strategies for managing her are not very helpful. For a man who's been married to the same woman for 55 years, he's remarkably good at saying exactly the wrong thing to her.
msbelle - Nov 27, 2012 11:03:16 am PST #2334 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
the people from intervention need to be called in to talk to your dad. talking to mom is pointless, but I thik at this point he is not grasping how much damage he is doing by enabling.
msbelle - Nov 27, 2012 11:05:41 am PST #2335 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Goodness Consuela has she been like this your whole life?
Jesse - Nov 27, 2012 11:05:56 am PST #2336 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Can you imagine actually having Jeff Van Vonderen on call in your life? That would be amazing. "Mo-OM! It's not that.... you know what? Talk to Jeff."
msbelle - Nov 27, 2012 11:09:10 am PST #2337 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
ICON - 4 of the 7 books I listed on Amazon over the break have sold and the 2 things I relisted on ebay sold. So pleased. only about $15, but still.
§ ita § - Nov 27, 2012 11:10:21 am PST #2338 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
What show were some of you guys describing as having indistinguishable guys?
I know that sleeping pills can gradually lose efficacy, but would they have rebound effects?
Nora Deirdre - Nov 27, 2012 11:10:56 am PST #2339 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
What show were some of you guys describing as having indistinguishable guys?
I feel like it was Nashville.
Jesse - Nov 27, 2012 11:19:06 am PST #2340 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Yeah, Nashville.