What if it were Brian Williams AND Diane Sawyer! Think of Mike Nichols!
You are breaking my heart here, Jesse. That's never going to happen. Right? Sawyer and Nichols seem strong and Brian Williams would never do that! If he strays, it should only be for Jon Stewart.
But we underestimated how powerful her hold is over my father. He finds it impossible to walk away or ignore her.
It's got to be brutal for him too.
My Dad determined that I need "a lecture" on Sunday because I wouldn't let him try to get up and walk without the walker. Stepmom will to an extent. She's with him all of the time and she gets worn down. So she rationalizes that if he's got something stable, it's maybe okay. And it's not. It's worse because it's impossible for him to grasp the subtleties of when it might be safe-ish to get up without the walker. He hears that and takes it too far. I don't even blame her, it's just I worry that he'll fall and hurt himself in a way that calling 911 for a lift assist can't semi-easily fix.
Did the Dr give the PRN benzos last night? Is it possibly enough to help her calm down and start normalizing (I want to say accepting but I realize she won't) the new digs?
Hot band name: Raptured Capybara.
I *loathe* how people are misusing "awe" (a feeling of reverential respect mixed with fear or wonder) for "aw" (exclamation used to express mild protest, entreaty, commiseration, or disapproval).
I love you, Teppy. This is just one of the many reasons why.
Totally different situation but Consuela's mom just reminded me of when my mom flipped out in hospice and called me to come and get her. She had many complaints, but the biggest complaint? "They are drugging me"...which was a big point of her going into hospice care so she would be drugged out of her pain. Something we had very calmly discussed way before it ever got to that point.
But that night, she just flipped out. I ended up packing a bag and sleeping in the room with her. If she could have gotten herself out of bed, I have no doubt she would have tried to rush the doors.
I feel for you, Consuela. Add me to the folks thinking you dad may need a break from her. Maybe that will help give him the strength to stand up to her.
Add me to the folks thinking you dad may need a break from her. Maybe that will help give him the strength to stand up to her
That could be good for him, but awful for her. She's utterly, completely, dependent on him. And, frankly, he would feel terrible about it: I'm not sure how much benefit he would gain. Although I am thinking about it...
Arrrggggg. Just got an e-mail from my dad regarding Christmas prezzies for my family. We have a choice of tickets to see Robin Williams or money towards a new washer/dryer (mine are close to 20 years old and limping along).
Consuela, even just a meal out with youo and your sister? A chance for him to take a deep breath and not have to be strong.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this, Consuela. I have been supporting you with my brain, although not so much with the typing. It seems to me that she was pretty miserable at home, too. Is there any way to convince your father that no place is going to make her happy or turn her back into the woman she used to be, but at least she's safe at the residential facility? I've seen some pretty hard cases change their minds after a few weeks in a facility, but she's not going to do any adjusting if she's focused on leaving.
