I think I will cry when/if Shane says he hates me. FTR, I never said it to my parents and once when my brother did, I gave him a serious tongue lashing and he never did it again. ChildGC did not traffic with that. Interestingly, my Dad never said he hated his parents either - I know that because my Grandma used to tell people that of her seven children (!!!), he was the only one who never said he hated her. Aw.

Casper CRIED quietly while we took an inch off the back to even it up as we grow out last October's boy-short cut, good grief the drama in that child

Oh man, I wish that's how Ryan reacted to haircuts.

My mom was so insecure about not being my bio-mom I really couldn't say anything to her of a rebellious nature. But I thought it really loud. She was traumatically over-bonded to her mom and deathly afraid to express any rebellious or independence-seeking thoughts or emotions. Therefore she had no understanding that such thoughts or emotions were normal and natural. So if I "hated" her. Or wished I had another mom, it was because I didn't think she *was* my "real mom," not because I was having growing pains.

At the age where I was curious enough to search, she was so anxious and insecure about it, I didn't do it because it would have upset her so. Then later on, it wasn't something I was curious about.

It's exhausting parenting your parent from a relatively early age, even when you don't realize that's the position you've been manipulated into. It's just normal, for you.

I don't remember if I ever told either of my parents that I hated them. I'm betting I didn't, because I was very invested in being a Good Kid. Weird, but Good.

I don't think I ever told my parents I hated them (certainly not after age 4 when my memories start being regular and distinct, anyway). I don't recall our arguments ever getting personal like that even when heated, they were just about things we should do or not do.

My dad is kind of obsessive about saying "I love you," whenever I leave their house, but it does ensure that if one or the other of us should pass away in the other's absence, that'll be the last thing we said to each other.

It's exhausting parenting your parent from a relatively early age, even when you don't realize that's the position you've been manipulated into. It's just normal, for you.

Oh, god, yes. Sometimes I have a hard time watching Tim's brother and SiL be with their kids, because they're so invested in their lives, and actually act like parents. It's a stark contrast to what my brother and I had.

(If I said "I hate you" to my mom, she would say "I hate you more" back to me and tell me to find somewhere else to live. Not an idle threat. So...yeah. The whole "I hate you" cake is as incomprehensible to me as Sanskrit.)

I can't remember telling my mom I hated her. I remember telling her she was embarrassing, and making her cry. I still feel terrible about that, 28 years later.

I just want to hug and hairpat so many of you.

I don't think I ever said, "I hate you," to my parents. I do remember threatening to run away once when I was 7 or so. Mom asked me which suitcase I'd like to take.

This was in the 70s, and none of the suitcases had wheels. So schlepping my books off to wherever was right out. Thus endeth the great running away of '74.

If my parents didn't hear I hate you from me, they definitely heard it from my siblings. During my adolescence, there were daily screaming matches between someone, either between siblings or between parent/child. I used to just hide in my room most of the time (unless I was involved in said screaming match.) I think I spent a year pretending I didn't have siblings.