I'm also really annoyed that Tim is camping this weekend.
I say that knowing all of the following are true: (1) the camping trip was planned a month ago, obviously before there was any way to know any bad shit was going to go down; (2) Dad is basically fine and there is no earth-shattering crisis; (3) there's no need for Tim to be here; (4) he has his own life and can do his own shit; and (5) if he had asked me if I wanted him to stay, I would have told him to go camping.
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(6) And I am a grown-ass adult who has dealt with Dad being in the hospital by myself for 15 years before meeting Tim and I can obviously continue to do so.
All of those things are true, and I fully acknowledge them, and yet I'm still annoyed. I'm allowed to feel those contradictory things, right? Or am I the world's biggest selfish jackass who shouldn't even be in a relationship since I can't say "Yes, go camping" and then be cheerful and glad about it?
is it possible that they did an EKG/EEG and some blood tests and he didn't have the markers to get the tests right away?
God damn it. I would have stayed home if the situation were reversed. And if I'm horrible for saying that, well, then I'm horrible.
And that doesn't mean that Tim going camping is "wrong." It's all really bad timing, that's all. And I don't like dealing with it by myself. But I am a grown-ass adult and will deal with it by myself.
is it possible that they did an EKG/EEG and some blood tests and he didn't have the markers to get the tests right away?
Pretty much they said that cardiologists don't come in on the weekends. Trufax. Because apparently people are not so thoughtless as to have heart attacks on the weekends.
Teppy, you're not horrible. Really. It is possible to know logically that this is a situation that you can handle on your own and still emotionally want your partner there with you. I don't see anything wrong in that at all. Are you able to at least call Tim and talk with him or is he in an area with spotty cell reception.
I think feeling contradictory things is inevitable in any relationship. There are also the SOs who don't go on the camping trip, but spend the weekend telling you how you should deal with something you've been dealing with for 15 years.
Are you able to at least call Tim and talk with him or is he in an area with spotty cell reception.
He texted me yesterday morning to tell me he was turning his cell off because he forgot his cell charger.
So.
All of those things are true, and I fully acknowledge them, and yet I'm still annoyed. I'm allowed to feel those contradictory things, right?
Yes. I can't count the number of times I feel these contradictions. We can't read each other's minds. If Tim had decided he was going to stay home despite you telling him to go then you would feel guilty about him not going. There is no answer that doesn't lead to contradictory feeling.
Teppy, perfectly understandable. Head thinks, of course it's fine, heart says, don't wanna be alone!
I've accomplished much this weekend! My sister was here, and I roped her into helping me spread mulch and pine bark, and break ground for a new bed for shrubs and flowers at the side of the house, and transplant the phlox ("the phlocking phlox") from a raised flower bed where it didn't belong to a little eroding slope where it can do good, and we planted pansies and finally used all my collected bricks to edge a new bed and create a proper walkway to the patio. We worked six hours yesterday and another hour this morning. My face is windburned/sunburned and my cheeks and nose are all pink. Also, my back and thighs and butt ache like crazy. I really am horribly out of shape.
And then we set up my brand-new sewing machine and she helped me learn how to use it. I think maybe I can do this "sewing" thing. Yay, I needed a new hobby.
