x-post from Minearverse:
Just saw on Democracy Now - one of the signs at Occupy Wall Street yesterday: "Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal."
That's insane troll logic!
Xander ,'Showtime'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Typo Boy - Oct 10, 2011 7:31:33 am PDT #923 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Ginger - Oct 10, 2011 7:58:19 am PDT #924 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I just got an e-mail from I guy I was seeing 10 years ago, pre-mastectomy, pre-the last 50 pounds, who's going to be in town next month and wants to "catch up." He moved back to California and we lost touch, so he knows nothing about the cancer, et al. I am filled with terror and indecision.
Typo Boy - Oct 10, 2011 8:20:37 am PDT #925 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Are your memories of him good overall? If you still consider him someone you are on friendly terms with, don't let body image demons stop you from seeing him.
Ginger - Oct 10, 2011 8:27:35 am PDT #926 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I have not yet coped with the idea of someone seeing a long scar where the breasts used to be. I have been avoidy.
le nubian - Oct 10, 2011 8:32:06 am PDT #927 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Ginger,
I think I am being obtuse. How would he see the scar? Or are you thinking of possible sexytimes?
Ginger - Oct 10, 2011 8:33:35 am PDT #928 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Well, there used to be sexytimes.
Laura - Oct 10, 2011 8:36:40 am PDT #929 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
I understand your hesitation, Ginger. If this is someone you have good feelings about I would go ahead and see him to catch up. Who knows what stuff he has dealt with the last 10 years. You will have a better feeling about how much you want to discuss when you actually see him.
Typo Boy - Oct 10, 2011 8:38:28 am PDT #930 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Are whether to see him and whether to have sex with him the same issue? Can you see him, and put off the issue of sexytimes until you see how you click today, which may not be the same as then?
Maria - Oct 10, 2011 8:38:33 am PDT #931 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Ginger, did you get the impression from his message that "catch up" = "sexytimes"? He may not be in that place any more, and might just want to see you and how you're doing platonically.
You get to decide how you want to interact. If you'd like to have dinner with him, go for it. If you're not ready for sexytimes, that's something that's totally up to you and he has to live with it.
Edit: Personal choice x-post FTW!
le nubian - Oct 10, 2011 8:39:38 am PDT #932 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
I agree with TB. I would find the decision to meet him for a drink or something much less overwhelming than sexytimes.