If you can get someone else to take care of any of it for you (any of us, people at the funeral home, a family lawyer) go ahead and let them. There's no virtue in doing everything yourself.

-t is very wise. Hard-won wisdom that I wish she didn't have experience with, but still. Very wise.

There's no virtue in doing everything yourself.

Truer words, Maria. Holding you in my thoughts today. If there's anything I can do, I will. Just ask.

Oh, blessed be, Maria, probate. Bah. A surviving spouse should have few roadblocks, though.

I've mentioned wills to Hubby. It freaks him out. My parents did quickie "Everything to my spouse wills" two years before Daddy died, and it saved a lot of grief because it turned out Mother's name wasn't on the deed to the house.

I need to get someone else to take care of it. And it can't wait. His car is worth more than he owes on it, and I don't want the bank to reposses it. I also don't want to keep making payments on it either. It's in his name only. The house is in my name only. We each had our own bank accounts, plus a joint one for the house. He probably doesn't have much in his since he didn't make a dime in 2011, and I have no idea if he has any other creditors. I know he was a personal guarantor on the loan for Warrior Aviation, but there are four others on there too, and it's more than adequately collateralized.

His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.

His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.

Oh honey. We went through this with Mom last year. Get other people to help, because it is going to be too overwhelming for you.

{{Maria}} So sorry on all this. I hope you find someone to take care of this for you quickly.

I have no advice to give, just: {{{{{Maria}}}}}

Oh, Maria. That is a mess. But it's perfectly okay to be angry and missing him at the same time.

I can take a day and come down, if it would help. I'm more than happy to do it, and I'm great at organizing and sorting and managing, especially for other people.

Oh Maria, sending lots of hugs and love.

Maria,

maybe you can get someone who can do some accounting work for you to get the records together?

You need an Erin/msbelle hybrid who can come in there and make things right.