There's no virtue in doing everything yourself.
Truer words, Maria. Holding you in my thoughts today. If there's anything I can do, I will. Just ask.
Mal: Does.. um.. does this seem kind of tight? Kaylee: Shows off your backside.
'Shindig'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Beverly - Feb 23, 2012 12:04:03 pm PST #8296 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Connie Neil - Feb 23, 2012 12:05:38 pm PST #8297 of 30001
brillig
Oh, blessed be, Maria, probate. Bah. A surviving spouse should have few roadblocks, though.
I've mentioned wills to Hubby. It freaks him out. My parents did quickie "Everything to my spouse wills" two years before Daddy died, and it saved a lot of grief because it turned out Mother's name wasn't on the deed to the house.
Maria - Feb 23, 2012 12:10:52 pm PST #8298 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
I need to get someone else to take care of it. And it can't wait. His car is worth more than he owes on it, and I don't want the bank to reposses it. I also don't want to keep making payments on it either. It's in his name only. The house is in my name only. We each had our own bank accounts, plus a joint one for the house. He probably doesn't have much in his since he didn't make a dime in 2011, and I have no idea if he has any other creditors. I know he was a personal guarantor on the loan for Warrior Aviation, but there are four others on there too, and it's more than adequately collateralized.
His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.
Atropa - Feb 23, 2012 12:15:38 pm PST #8299 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.
Oh honey. We went through this with Mom last year. Get other people to help, because it is going to be too overwhelming for you.
Typo Boy - Feb 23, 2012 12:16:50 pm PST #8300 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
{{Maria}} So sorry on all this. I hope you find someone to take care of this for you quickly.
Kate P. - Feb 23, 2012 12:19:51 pm PST #8301 of 30001
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
I have no advice to give, just: {{{{{Maria}}}}}
Amy - Feb 23, 2012 12:20:15 pm PST #8302 of 30001
Because books.
Oh, Maria. That is a mess. But it's perfectly okay to be angry and missing him at the same time.
I can take a day and come down, if it would help. I'm more than happy to do it, and I'm great at organizing and sorting and managing, especially for other people.
Burrell - Feb 23, 2012 12:37:37 pm PST #8303 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Oh Maria, sending lots of hugs and love.
le nubian - Feb 23, 2012 12:42:04 pm PST #8304 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Maria,
maybe you can get someone who can do some accounting work for you to get the records together?
You need an Erin/msbelle hybrid who can come in there and make things right.
Maria - Feb 23, 2012 12:45:19 pm PST #8305 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
I just don't want to deal, and I don't have that option.
I still can't go down into the basement. I'm sleeping on the couch with the light and the tv on. He has so much crap everywhere I'm paralyzed by the thought of having to go through it.
I just want someone to make this nightmare go away. I can't do this.