I need to get someone else to take care of it. And it can't wait. His car is worth more than he owes on it, and I don't want the bank to reposses it. I also don't want to keep making payments on it either. It's in his name only. The house is in my name only. We each had our own bank accounts, plus a joint one for the house. He probably doesn't have much in his since he didn't make a dime in 2011, and I have no idea if he has any other creditors. I know he was a personal guarantor on the loan for Warrior Aviation, but there are four others on there too, and it's more than adequately collateralized.

His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.

His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.

Oh honey. We went through this with Mom last year. Get other people to help, because it is going to be too overwhelming for you.

{{Maria}} So sorry on all this. I hope you find someone to take care of this for you quickly.

I have no advice to give, just: {{{{{Maria}}}}}

Oh, Maria. That is a mess. But it's perfectly okay to be angry and missing him at the same time.

I can take a day and come down, if it would help. I'm more than happy to do it, and I'm great at organizing and sorting and managing, especially for other people.

Oh Maria, sending lots of hugs and love.

Maria,

maybe you can get someone who can do some accounting work for you to get the records together?

You need an Erin/msbelle hybrid who can come in there and make things right.

I just don't want to deal, and I don't have that option.

I still can't go down into the basement. I'm sleeping on the couch with the light and the tv on. He has so much crap everywhere I'm paralyzed by the thought of having to go through it.

I just want someone to make this nightmare go away. I can't do this.

{{Maria}} All my love and sympathy. Please, ask for help, even if you don't want to or feel you can't, and take any that is offered. I wish my dad had asked for more help when my mother passed. He lost out on money in more than one place because he waited too long after my mother died to file various paperwork. For him it only totaled a couple hundred dollars, which he could easily spare, but it's not the same in your situation.

You need to give yourself a little time, Maria. It's all still very new, and very raw.