Giles ,'Lies My Parents Told Me'
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I just don't want to deal, and I don't have that option.
I still can't go down into the basement. I'm sleeping on the couch with the light and the tv on. He has so much crap everywhere I'm paralyzed by the thought of having to go through it.
I just want someone to make this nightmare go away. I can't do this.
{{Maria}} All my love and sympathy. Please, ask for help, even if you don't want to or feel you can't, and take any that is offered. I wish my dad had asked for more help when my mother passed. He lost out on money in more than one place because he waited too long after my mother died to file various paperwork. For him it only totaled a couple hundred dollars, which he could easily spare, but it's not the same in your situation.
You need to give yourself a little time, Maria. It's all still very new, and very raw.
{{{Maria}}} Ask some one to help you or pay someone to help you if you can. You should not have to do this all alone.
You aren't alone, Maria, there are so many around you who would be happy to help out.
I just want someone to make this nightmare go away. I can't do this.
{{Maria}} Let your support network prop you up. Are there people that some of us can contact for you?
I wouldn't have made it through the early part of last year without Plei, Cass, and some other close friends. They essentially ran my life for me for a while, and I needed that help.
{{Maria}} I can come out and help, too, Maria. You don't have to do this alone.
Maria, love, being strong sometimes means knowing when you need help, and asking for it. (((Maria)))
I wish I could do something, Maria. Take advantage of the people who offer to help. It's so much easier when there's someone there to keep you focused on the task.
About the third thing I did after being diagnosed was get a new will designed to make things as simple as possible for my family. (Note to self: Must add Mr Peabody to the will.)
He has so much crap everywhere I'm paralyzed by the thought of having to go through it.
Take advantage of the offers to help. People who can sort things for you when you can't deal are a good thing.
And, from the helper perspective, it's soothing to have something practical and useful to do when someone you love is grieving, and all you want to do is make something better somehow.